(Closed) I’m excited to get married… BUT!

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Helper bee

Yes. It is downright silly! The whole thing is completely irrational and nonsensical. I experienced (experience) ALOT of stress on this score. 

I decided that the best way to justify the expense is as our contribution to economic recovery! Especially the local economy–I did my best to spend our money in a way that will benefit my community and local businesses as well as to produce a gorgeous wedding. 🙂 I don’t regret much about it at all.

 

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

YES. I had all kinds of good intentions to keep costs down, but the guest list gets bigger, and bigger, and bigger… I am horrified by how much this is costing.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

I did after I got the credit card bill, but I figure that I wanted the day to be beautiful and something I would remember forever.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Yes, that’s part of why we have a teensy budget. Its impossible to justify spending so much when I’ve never wanted anything big (to me the weddings not near as important as the marriage and I would rather spend my moola on stuff for our long term life together).

You’ll manage. Just ask yourself everytime you make a decision, is this what I really want?

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!

I’m a little scared to see the final tally as well. My parents are paying for it, but still. It’s bad compared to what I thought we were going to spend. It’s their fault for not setting a budget.

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Dude, did you just ask if you’re the only bride to feel bad about spending too much money?!?! OMG! You are not alone, believe me. Our wedding is costing way more than I thought it would, but it’s just all the of the reasonably-priced things add up to a *ahem* big number. 

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

You’re definitely not alone!! Sometimes I’d rather just run off or get married at the church and take all the money my parents are spending and use it for a down payment on a house!  It’s crazy…but my parents wouldn’t have it any other way, and I don’t think I would either really.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I totally feel ya on this one!  It’s pretty sickening how much money we are spending!  Fiance and I are paying for 50% of it, and our parents are contributing 25% each.  It helps a little that we are having a longish engagement, so we can save money and slowly pay things off over 1.5 years.  For example, our venue allows us to make payments along the way… and our photographer also gave us a very fair and manageable payment plan.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

I’m terrified…  completely terrified.

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Yep.  I’m not a homeowner so I’ve never spent this much on anything in my life.  We’re dead set against charging anything for the wedding, so it’s definitely been tough saving up the money.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

Yes!! And I also feel like once vendors know it’s for a wedding they jack the price waaay up!! So you’re paying 300% for everything and tipping and feeding every single person involved even though it’s only a few hours!! Ugh!

Post # 14
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108 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I am totally freaking out! We started with a budget of $5,000 because we are paying for everything ourselves, and it’s only about 60 guests but it’s so hard to stick to, all the little things really add up, it’s very stressful and at times I wish we would have ran off 🙂

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Of course! I thought I found the perfect venue… til I saw the price tag on the food/bev. Who on earth has a 24% service charge, anyways? I mean c’mon. That’s outlandish. My Fiance and I were talking last night and he said that I should talk to the venue and find out if they can work something within our budget. I’m going to talk to the catering manager on Monday, hoping she can arrange more than… as my dad says ‘beans and weenies’ on our budget 🙂

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I was the same way. I was so nervous because originally our guest list was much more then what we budgeted for. But with a few blessings we had 91 declines which brought us back to a great number. When I found out the hall cost was cheaper than I had expected all my wedding stresses went away. Funny how money can cause so many problems.

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