Post # 1
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Busy bee
I posted a few months ago about how I was having doubts about my dress & I felt a little better about it, but lately, those doubts are coming back to me. I don’t know what it is. It’s a beautiful dress, I loved it when I bought it and I still do love it. But for some reason, I feel like it’s not me. I see all these beautiful dresses in wedding magazines & on websites and for some reason, I feel like I would be so much happier with one of them. My Mom adores my dress and thinks it’s “perfect for me” but is also very supportive and tells me that if I’m unhappy with it, we can find another. However, I don’t want to have wasted all that money on a dress. Of course we can sell it, but I know I won’t get back what we payed for it. And then what if I find another dress, and decide I miss this one? I just don’t understand how I can suddenly not like something that I LOVED when I purchased it!
I hate being so indecisive. I always second guess everything. I just want to feel beautiful and feel like a princess on my wedding day. I NEVER am one to seek attention or try to be the center of the show but this is my wedding day and I’ve dreamed of it since I was a little girl. I want everything to be perfect.
So, here I am. Asking for advice, yet again! What do you girls think? What would you do in my situation?
Here’s the dress (even though most of you have probably seen it one million times! lol)
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Post # 3
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Bumble bee
the other day i was watching “say yes to the dress” and one of the ladies said that if you found the one u should stop looking… its like the men… if you found the man u will married stop looking… there will other out there that u will like and will make u doubt…
i love your dress… in the picture u look so stunning and happy… but at the end is what is going to make you happy
Post # 4
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Helper bee
You look so happy in your photos! The dress looks great on you too! I have my dress put away in my closet so I don’t look at it everyday.
Post # 5
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Busy bee
@ Magenta – I’ve never thought of it that way before! I know I need to stop looking, but it’s so tempting!! lol Thanks so much for the compliment though 🙂
@ Janana – Thank you! Maybe that’s what I need to do, just keep it in my closet and not look at it. It might help if I get it altered too lol so it’s not so huge on me & I can actually get a feel of what it will look like the day of the wedding. (Right now it’s 3 sizes too big, it’s clipped to me in the picture)
Post # 6
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Bumble bee
I think that getting it altered will make a huge difference. I also agree with the others, you look so happy in your pics and BEAUTIFUL!! I also LOVE and firmly believe in what Magenta said…we are all guilty of wanting to look more and what-if’s.
BUT, At the end of the day- you need to be happy. Good luck girl!!!
Post # 7
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Busy bee
@Tonya – Thank you! I think I will get it altered soon and see how I feel about it.
Post # 8
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Helper bee
I agree with Magenta. There’s always gonna be another dress out there for you, just like there can always be another man out there for you. Stop looking! You look amazingly happy in all of those pictures. It looks like you really love that dress!
Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper
Exactly. Each day a new designer will appear and there will be another fabulous dress out there. I’m in the looking part and will be getting my dress soon and it’s a bit overwhelming..and underwhelming at the same time.
You look gorgeous in that dress!
Post # 10
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Busy bee
You look so great in it good dress choice!
Post # 11
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Helper bee
- Wedding: September 2010 - Casa Real at Ruby Hill Winery
I think the dress looks fabulous on you, but having been in the same situation myself, here are my thoughts:
Like me, you probably bought your dress too early. I bought my dress 18 months before my wedding and had doubts right away. They passed but then they kept coming back and my mom said the same thing. I ultimately found another dress and fell in love with it. Because I didn’t want to be impusive or risk falling in love with yet another dress, I shopped around until I was sick of looking at dresses. I still loved the second dress and my parents did too, so I ended up buying it. I haven’t tried to sell dress #1 yet but I’m sure I won’t be able to make 100% of the money back. But I don’t regret buying dress #2 because I love it, it’s more me, and I knew I’d always have slight regret if I stayed with my original dress.
I think there’s nothing wrong with going on and trying some dresses if you’re having doubts. The experience will either a) reaffirm that Dress #1 is the right dress, or 2) that there is a more perfect dress out there for you. I just don’t want you to have regrets on your wedding day!
Post # 12
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Busy bee
@Bean – I did buy the dress way too early. I think I need to just get it altered and then if I still don’t like it, then I can always try on a few others and see how I feel.
Thank you all for your advice!
Post # 13
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Sugar bee
Your dress is beautiful and you look beautiful in it! Have you tried it on recently? I had a MAJOR case of dress envy, but then I tried my dress on again and fell in love with it all over again.
My biggest advice is to STOP looking (which I think the pp’s have told you to do as well!).
Good luck!
Post # 14
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Honey bee
That dress is really beautiful, unique, and looks very “you”!
don’t worry about having second thoughts from buying early. I bought my dress super-early (like last spring) and I started to worry about it too. I hadn’t been planning on buying, but a good opportunity came along and I went with it. I think everyone worries a little bit. Relax, it looks great :o)
Post # 15
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Helper bee
It’s a beautiful dress! It looks great on you!
Honestly, I’ve had similar thoughts about mine, but whenever I’ve tried it on, I’ve loved it again. So, I stopped looking at other dresses. My dress is gorgeous, it fits me and my personality, but if I keep shopping for dresses, of COURSE I’m going to find other dresses I love! So, in my experience, it was much better to stop looking at other dresses than to buy another one.
Post # 16
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Honey Beekeeper
Stop looking. It looks awesome on you!
I looked at other dresses, too, and it’s easy to want what you DON’T have. And those magazine dresses are in the thousands of dinero…how could you NOT want them? That’s what these companies do…tempt you and lure you with pretty dresses to fork over your money!
You look great, seriously