(Closed) I’m feeling a bit depressed today and having a total pity party -Can you relate?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I am feeling pretty similar today.  My Darling Husband is working out of town until may and can’t come home on his one day off because he is just too far away.  We have done this many times before, but this time just sucks so much more than before.  Don’t know why, it just does.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Fiance works 80-85 hours a week so I can relate. Thankfully we get one day together a week but its the only time we can do groceries and wedding errans etc. It sucks but weve only got a month more of this left and then who knows. Hopefully you have some family and friends around who you can see. Im pretty confined to the hous with no car and in a new town 1300km away from everyone I know and love.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Ya know, my Fiance and I were just talking about this last night. He has every night filled up with stuff. He works after his full time teaching job until about 10pm most nights, and when he’s not working there he’s doing lessons and singing in a choir to keep up his skills. While I’m totally understanding and know that he’s doing this for the wedding, it kinda stinks when he comes home, eats dinner and goes to bed. We have to make the most of the time we do get together and try to not pack it full or errands or things we HAVE to do.

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Sorry that you are feeling so down right now! Can you think about planning something special for the next day you will have together, to have something to look forward to? Try also making plans to go out with other friends while he is working late, so you are not sitting around and dwelling on him being gone.

Is this also a temporary situation? You mention this being for the rest of your life, but will you have these jobs forever, or can you try to focus on a time when you will have more time together?

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Date night helps us a lot. If Fiance wasnt so exausted today we were going to go for a coffee and a drive when he got home. Last night when he got home I showed him 3 dresses I bought on my last vacation it was fun. We found a big adjustment period with intamacy issues at first.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I understand completly. I work M-F 7:30amd till 2pm with weekends off. Fiance works nights, with Thursday and Fridays off as of right now. So he sleeps during the day mainly. Also we live in differnt places right now. Each with our parents about 45 mintues away from each other. So basicly I see him regularly once a week from 3pm till whenever I leave to go home at night from his house. We plan o moveing in together in May. So I will be seeing him alot more hopefully. 

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I am having a pity party, of sorts.  I just have felt like crap the last few weeks and I wonder if I am pregnant.  I am finally going to a walk-in clinic tomorrow.  I can’t help but obsess!  I want to know for sure, and if I am not, I will kick my ass back into shape.  I just have felt awful lately!  :/

That is really hard though, I know how you are feeling.  Darling Husband used to work from 12 noon- 12 midnight, getting home at 1 am.  It was horrible!  I had classes from 9-12 in the morning, so we only saw each other if I stayed up all night.  We finally got him a different shift.  Just do your best to schedule time, it is so hard not to see one another!

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I know how youn feel… had totally depressed day today. My Fiance works abroad and we only get to see eachother about once every 6 weeks. I also found out yesterday that we have to postpone the wedding…

Post # 13
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Helper bee

Could you go to bed early and then wake up for an hour or so when he gets home?

Not all the time of course….but maybe once a week?

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I can relate, not only because I.. ah.. NEVER get to see my FI- because were countries apart right now but also after our wedding he will be so busy working two full time jobs and has about 1 day off- 2 (If were lucky ). Hell come home when Im asleep and leave back to work around 12 pm, which sucks. So we only have a few hrs together and thats all. Im starting to hate it NOW and have complained a little to him but what aer we going to do u know? The way I look at it is, Were together, under one roof, see each other even if its a few hours and make the best of what we have. Besides Im sure, me and you, and all the girls on here wont go through this for very long. Soon enough things will fall into place and get better. 🙁

 

 

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