Post # 1
The closer it’s getting to the wedding, the more I’m feeling overwhelmed.
The drama between the family members seems to be growing, not decreasing, and I’m sick of it.
I don’t have set days off at work so I have figure out when I’m going to have the bridal shower and the bachelorette party like yesterday so I can ask off of work.
And not only am I trying to plan things around my work schedule but I’m trying to figure out what days would work best with my mom so the things we need to get done together can get done.
But today, of all days, I’m feeling down and I can’t get myself motivated.
Anyone else feel this way?
Post # 3
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we are all stressed pumpkin but I promise things will get better….sending you lots of ((hugs))
Post # 4
It is all a little overwhelming, and the closer it gets the worse the overwhelming feeling. I was feeling a lot of pressure and anxiety about planning and pleasing everyone, until the other day.
I made a list of priorities for Fiance and myself and that is now my focus. I am not necessarily ignoring everyone else, but I am just trying to take it all in stride.
Time is another issue. When will everything get done, when can I take off work for certain things, and again, I just go back to the list and only focus on what is most important.
I also give myself a break every few days, and don’t get upset with myself when I don’t get it all done as I planned. I think as brides we are our own worst enemies with our expectations of ourselves.
Hang in there, and remember the most important thing at the end of the day is your are marrying the man you love and you get to spend the rest of your life with him!
Post # 5
The feelings mutual! Even though my wedding is very casual, its still becoming very real for me and it weighs on my shoulders a bit. You plan, visualize, buy , order , organize and never know til the day if it will all come together as you hoped :0
In a few months we will look back and laugh!
Post # 6
YES! so over the family drama. I told Fiance today, lets just so to city hall forget the wedding. But he says no, he knows I’ve waited my whole life for this and refuses to let my family ruin it.
Post # 7
Yep. I spent my lunch break yesterday crying in FH’s office. Not fun. But today is better. I feel less overwhelmed about everything wedding related
Post # 8
Def there with you. I do DOC as a side job, so the expectations to have my wedding perfect is huge. I can do lots of things, but i just don’t have the budget. (Not to mention I could be laid off anyday, and we just took out a loan to pay for the wedding!)
Post # 9
Yep…totally overwhelmed with a whole host of mixed emotions. I have exhausted all other outlets. I don’t want to wear out the “welcome mat’ so to speak with all my friends. FI is not really as stressed out as I am and if he is, he is not showing it. I feel like I have no one I can identify with and really express these frustrations with.
We have already cut so many corners for this day to occur, I am wondering if the day is going to even resemble a wedding at all (except for my beautiful white dress). I would have waited another year to do this if I knew we were going to have the unexpected financial burdens we have encountered throughout the planning.
I sent out my invites a few weeks ago after putting a lot of time, money and thought into them and my dad said the invite was “interesting”…..whatever that was suppose to mean. Not a “Oh, can’t wait to be there to share the day with you and Fiance.” I know we are not having the traditional church wedding like he would have wanted and most of my family, but that’s not what we want. We want a beach wedding with just close friends and family. If he would like to foot the bill for a big blowout wedding, be my guest.
My dad is not helping with the expense at all. Fiance and I have been together for 11 years so I did not expect he would anyway, but still…..not even a dime. He would not have contributed no matter what though. He is not financially stable and never has been. That’s a whole other issue though. But, I wanted to share this day with him and move on. I had forgiven my dad a long time ago for the struggle I went through as a child growing up in a dysfunctional household.
Sorry for the long post and hijacking the thread but it feels better to get it all out and very theraputic!