(Closed) I’m feeling discouraged. :(

posted 8 years ago in Full Figured
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Perhaps there are brides your size… maybe they just haven’t posted a lot because they also felt discouraged? Maybe you’ve started an open dialogue for other full figured brides now πŸ™‚

Size doesn’t matter though!! You’re planning your wedding, you’re marrying the person you love & we’re all here to support you!! Welcome to the hive πŸ™‚

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I agree that a size 16 is normal too : I’m only an 18, so while I’m not plus sized, I know the frustrations of not being super skinny…

My SIL was a plus size bride, maybe I can get her on here to give some advice πŸ™‚

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Most people dont realize that a size 16 or even an 18 isn’t even considered plus sized. Thats still in the misses section at the store. IT IS NORMAL. Media has twisted peoples ideas of normal. A size 4 or 2 IS NOT NORMAL. I would worry to much about other people size and just work on what you want for your wedding day. If you feel the need to loose 5lbs so that u will feel better go ahead and do it. If you are comfortable with yourself dont worry about it. You love your man and he loves you thats all that matters. I know you will look beautiful on your wedding day, and you man will think the same.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

wouldnt**

Post # 7
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Sugar bee

No one’s exactly normal, life is better that way.   But if you want to be a size 16 then why not aim for it.  But don’t do it to be ‘normal’, normal people are boring.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

First of all, lets not throw around the idea that being a 2 or 4 is “not normal” and that there is something wrong with being a 2 or 4. There isn’t. My 2 best friends are a size 4 and a size 6 and they look AMAZING. Totally different body types, and they have fluctuated up or down size over the years but they eat right and exercise, and that is just where their weight ends up being.

But, I always think it is funny to hear what other people consider to be “overweight” or their “goal weight”. I am a size 16 and I would love to be a size 10 (not enough to exercise or eat right, apparently, but thats a story for another day). I was lamenting this fact at work the other day (about how I am overweight and wish I could lose weight) with another friend who is also a 16. We were excited that Forever 21 is opening a plus size section. Two guys who were eating in the breakroom with us were like “WTF are you two talking about? Yall aren’t fat. Y’all are totally average sized. Not skinny, but definitely not fat. Just normal!”

It was maybe the best compliment I’ve ever gotten, haha. I mean to ME, I am super super overweight. Like disgustingly so. To them, I am average. Just goes to show you that everything is in the eye of the beholder.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

@mydecember… I wish i was a size 16 too but i am not πŸ™‚

im a size 22

Post # 12
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732 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010 - The Tower Club

@OP: I think I see what you mean. By the way, I’m nowhere near a 16 either, but am long past the point of wishing I was. As terribly cliche as it sounds, I’m happy to be a size “me.” πŸ™‚

Hopefully no one is implying that there’s anything wrong with anyone. I do know though, as a larger person, if I were a size 16 I would be considered “normal” by much of society, since I would be within the average sizes people see every day and would be able to shop at stores that are not specialized (ie., normal stores). Meaning, “normal” is a determination made by society at large, not by any one person.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I mean I hear what you all are saying. I don’t have personal experience being larger than a size 16, but I have been a size 16 for much of my life.

I have never once felt “normal”. To me normal is a size 8. I will always be the fat girl in the room, as far as I’m concerned. A 16 is not average to me, it is very overweight. An 8 or 10 is average in my opinion. A 16 is not.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I’m about an 18, sometimes a 16, sometimes a 20…my wedding dress is a 20.  I’ve always been on the larger side of life, my shape is pretty decent, so I wont complain…but I can’t really shop in “normal” stores…I can get into things at Old Navy…but all those J.Crew beauties don’t exist in my world haha…thing is…I think feeling large or insecure is all relative…cause people I’d die to look like have “fat” complexes…and their feelings are no more real than my own…

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Ok more to add….

this is kind of a comment to some above comments about size 16 and 18 not being plus sized….not that I am eager to join the group, but I guess that leaves me in no mans land…As far as I can see, and I think this it bullsh*t and sad, but as soon as you get close to a size 14 in a store they get more scarce…and if you are outside of a 16, get lost hah…go somewhere else. So…I dont really know what I’m saying other than we all (people here on this board at least) face frusturations whether we are a 16 or a 26..granted, some more than others, but they are no less annoying.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

You are you.  Maybe that means that you are bubbly and happy, maybe that means that you are serious and smart, maybe that means that you are all of those.. but your weight does NOT define who you are.  It’s simply the size clothing that you fit into.

If you are happy with your size the way it is… then there isn’t a problem.. you don’t have to wish that you were a size 16.  If you aren’t happy, change it.  Only you have the power to do it.  Do what makes you happy!

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