I'm Finally Going Dress Shopping! What do I Need to Know?

posted 12 months ago in Dress
Post # 18
743 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2019 - City, State

somedaymrsj :  My first bit of advice is to go in with an open mind. try at least 1 of each style of dress, even if you are sure you dont like it. Do this with fabrics as well, many many times you will be surprised that something you said enver ever to, is actually what you LOVE!

But also do not go in without any idea of what you want. Have a general idea, but be open to trying thigns that go against that vision. I knew I wanted bling but not lace, but I still tried lace, but to make sure I wasnt missing something! (Turns otu I wanetd lace after all!)

Also: make sure to move around a lot. Sit down, stand, dance a little, to really get a feel for what it will be like to be in that dress all day.

Be hoenst with the consultant! Tell them what you like about each dress and what you dont. Then she can help you find the perfect dress! They know their stock well, so they can probably pull something for you thats perfect!

If you go with people, and have no luck, try going alone. I didnt want to go alone, but I had to for one appointment and thats how I foudn my dress! It can be nice to not have everyones opinions!

You will have that “this is the dress moment” but it may not be what you expect. You may or may not cry. You may or my not get emotional, but something will tell you when you’ve found the one! For me, the whole world went silent when I put it on, including all the noise in my head! After that, I struggled to take it off and still jsut want to wear it all the time!

Make sure to ask about alterations and order timeframe. How long will it take for the dress to come in. What alterations should you expect. You can usually add sleeves or straps to any strapless dress, take out skirt layers to make it less puffy or vice versa. If there is a dress you lvoe but you want it to have straps for example, thats usually easy to do. Make sure you keep the cost of alterations in mind, they can add up to an extra $1K to your dress!

And LAST part, and this is just my personal advice, do not try on dresses out of your budget. It is so easy to fall in love with a dress that is crazy expensive. More beading, better fabric, etc etc. But you really do not want to be stuck finding a dress you absolutely adore, which ends up being double to triple your budget! This happened to my Maid/Matron of Honor, she fell in love with a Hailey Paige dress that after alterations would cost 8K! She adored it, but it would have eaten up 1/3 of her entire budget!

Good luck! <3

Post # 20
1005 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

somedaymrsj :  Know your budget and stick to it. Keep in mind any restrictions on bare shoulders or body forming outfits if you are getting married in a church.

Please be open minded about style! Maybe you have something in your head, but it means nothing until you’ve tried on a few different things!

Post # 21
6531 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

somedaymrsj :  Just want to add, because I didn’t see it, really think about the things that irritate you in the dress. If it’s heavy when you put it on for 10 minutes it’s going to be a lot heasier in 10 hours. If it’s too tight to pull up so you can have a pee you’ve got to work your way around that problem. Or too snug to enjoy dinner, for that matter! If the beads or sequins are a little bit scratchy now, imagine what it’s going to be like when your arms rub it all day long. 

I didn’t have the dress shopping experience myself, but I watched enough people get married to realize that I didn’t want a long down at all and went with a lightweight swing dress. If you’d asked me that 10 years ago I never would’ve dreamed it 🙂

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