(Closed) I'm Five years older than my fiancee

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I wouldn’t judge (because my best friend married a man literally twice her age, and that really opened my eyes to the arbitrary preconceptions I held…) however the woman being significantly older than the man is the more unusual situation – BUT that certainly doesn’t make it okay for people to make rude comments to you though!!!

Out of interest how old are you two? I feel like the older you both are, the less it matters because you are both in the same life stage then. If you’re both adults it’s silly and childish for anyone to “tease.”

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

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jessicabarfield85:  I’m 6 years older than mine and I often get the “cougar” comment. My cousin who is just a few months older than me whom I grew up with is also engaged to someone 6 years younger. There is a running joke amongst our family and friends that we both “like ’em young”.

It honestly doesn’t bother me in the slightest. I feel my OH is much more mature than most guys his age and I’m a little more immature than most women my age so it kind of balances out lol. Plus, hey, when I’m nearing 40, I’ma still have a 34 year old husband. Guess who will be laughing then?

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Nobody teases me about it but it wouldn’t bother me. Our age difference is a bit less though – 3 years – but he was born in a different decade so I actually enjoy teasing him. Marrying a younger man seems to be good luck in my adopted family and everyone jokes that it’s the magic formula for marital happiness. Enjoy it! 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2016 - Magnolia House

I wouldn’t let it bother you. I am 4 years older than mine and I wouldn’t say 6 is a lot older, Its not that much, its not like its 20! LOL And as you get older it gets less obvious. We are in our 30s and most people think we are the same age and if they find out I’m older they usually think a year or two. As long as they get a reaction from you people will continue to tease. I just ignore it. My mom tells people she raised a good one!

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’m 5 yrs older than my husband too.  We met when I he just turned 23.  I got it for a little bit, still do sometimes.  Doesn’t bother me at all.  

Post # 7
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Busy bee

I’m a whole couple of WEEKS older than my SO and I’ve gotten comments. People are ridiculous, lol. Tell them you are enjoying his youth and virility and go on with your life! 😉

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2006

My good friend is 10 years older than her man. I say more power to you!

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’m six years older than my husband. It doesn’t bother me all that much. I think I look good for my age and he is balding- so I don’t think the age difference is noticeable! Haha!

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I’m five years older than mine also. However, he looks older than me especially when he wears five o’clock shadow which I love. One childhood friend made own joking comment when we started dating (prior to meeting him), once she did she said he was perfect for me and no comments about it since.

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2015

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jessicabarfield85:  I just block out the teasing and judgements. Being 6 years younger than my fiance has gotten me a lot of unwanted attention from my friends and family. It doesnt bother me anyore next time just tell them that age doesnt matter when you’re in love and what to spend the rest of your life with him.

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Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

5 years really isn’t a big difference so I guess I don’t see the issue. I’ve got a friend who is 22 and is in a committed relationship with a 52 year old man. Honestly, it’s odd seing photos of them together since he is literally old enough to be her dad. But they make each other happy and have a healthy relationship, so I’m happy for them.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

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jessicabarfield85:  I’m 4-5 years older than my Fiance… but I look really young for my age. We once went out and I got carded but he didn’t! I don’t really get any cougar or cradle-robber comments, but I also tend to avoid talking about it.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

My mom’s just over a year older than my dad. She was super irritated the first few times someone called her a cougar but she’s learned to nkt let it bother her. 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

I’m 33, he’s 28. I’ll be 34 before he’s 29. He doesn’t look young so I only heard about it from friends. People used to make obnoxious comments like that and I’d just roll my eyes, eventually they got tired ot it. Don’t let it get to you. 

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