@lolita39: Sigh. He came with our venue (reception venue did just about everything for us, which was awesome), 20 years experience, etc. I made lists of must play/do not play songs and sent them to our coordinator, who I assumed would share them and our timeline (that she created) to the DJ. Nope, two weeks before the wedding (TWO WEEKS), he emails me and says he needs to have a 45 minute meeting with us, and he can ONLY meet on weekdays after 6PM. I respond and tell him that that isn’t possible this late in the game, and can we work it out through email? He stops replying. I email coordinator and she tells me it can be done over the phone, so I email DJ and mention this. He immediately gets back to me and is happy to have a phone conversation, so I give him DH’s number, and he emails me back with paperwork to fill out, that’s basically stuff he should have already gotten from the coordinator (our music lists/likes, timeline, etc.)! I fill it out anyway and email it back, he calls Darling Husband and barely asks him about music. He wants to know stuff like how did we meet? How long have we been together? ARGH.
Wedding comes, and we get announced, come in, and we’re supposed to go right into the first dance, except that he’s an idiot and there’s this awkward chunk of time before he finally starts rambling about our first dance song and plays it. We finish, get our food, and he is supposed to get the microphone for the speeches out to the best man AS SOON AS the last guest is seated from the buffet. Again, HUGE chunk of time between the last guest through and the best man getting the speech (like, 15+ minutes), where I kept looking over at the DJ booth to see wtf he was doing. Plates were being cleared before the speeches started, when I wanted people to be eating during them.
Then, he opens the dance floor with a slow song…that I hate. (Christina Perri’s “A Thousand Years” from effing Twilight) A song that was the VERY FIRST song listed on my do not play list. My Maid/Matron of Honor went and talked to him, and he told her FLAT OUT that he never read our lists. WTF! She stood up there and went through the lists with him. Then he played ANOTHER song on my do not play list (a Black Eyed Peas song, when the list said NO BLACK EYED PEAS), so another Bridesmaid or Best Man went to speak with him. He “apologized” for the “misunderstanding,” and she tried to go through the lists (because he was also, still, ignoring my must play list, and played several of those songs during dinner, when we wanted to dance to those), and he made her leave the booth (she also went up to request a song later, and he responded that he “doesn’t play that at weddings,” though he DID play it for her). It didn’t happen again, but I wasn’t real happy with his performance aside from blatantly ignoring what we wanted/asked for.
He must have seen my comments from the survey the venue sent me, because he sent me an email, apologizing for not “connecting” with us as well as we should have, which I promptly deleted.