Post # 1
Maybe it’s just all the bad luck Bridesmaid or Best Man posts today. Maybe it’s just paranoia. But I do have a bad feeling about this.
I facebookmessaged one of my BMs yesterday, asking if she’d tied down her travel plans for the wedding yet. I know that this is complicated for her – she’s a young mom who lives 4 hrs by plane away from the wedding. She hasn’t left her kid alone yet – she’d either have to stay behind with her husband, or travel alone with her mom, or all 3 of them could come if the husband can get the time off work. (The kid’s about 1.5 years.) I’m thrilled with any of these options – I haven’t even met the baby yet! She is one of my best friends, and has been the most excited person about this wedding since the beginning of time, more excited than me!
Anyway, her response (this morning) to my inquiry was “How are you? Has your summer started? Can I call you tonight?”
I just… have a bad feeling about this. What an icky feeling. I’ll be so sad if she can’t come.
Post # 3
I can see how you would feel nervous. I think that if she wasnt coming at all then maybe she would have said that in the email. Maybe she wants to talk to you over the phone to talk about some different options. I hope your phone call goes well.
Post # 4
Dammit. Dammit, I knew it. I’m down a bridesmaid. I’m not mad at her, I’m just kind of bummed out. This is the second Bridesmaid or Best Man who’s had to back out because of career opportunities. I totally get it, and I’m happy for them both, but now our wedding is just missing two of the really obvious bridesmaid people in my life. Sadface.
Post # 5
So sorry to hear you’re down a Bridesmaid or Best Man. This is one of my biggest fears.
Post # 6
Awww bummer! So sorry to hear that. I know it sucks that they won’t be with you for your big day, but at least it’s not because of stupid drama. They both seem like they have good reasons for not being able to come. Hopefully you guys can celebrate together at some point!
Post # 7
Man that sucks.
I wish there was some advice I could give you but there isnt. Just try to enjoy your day and know that if the circumstances were any different, they would have been there.
Post # 9
So sorry to hear that. I can’t imagine not having one of my close friends there but I guess on the bright side (and a very dimly lit brightside that doesn’t really matter) if you chose not to replace them it saves a little bit of money…?? maybe brightside?? ok I tried…I would much rather have my friends there to. I’m sure that you will still have a beautiful wedding surrounded by lots of people who care about you and your fiance.
Post # 10
Aww, that sucks! Hopefully she’ll come visit you sometime soon and you can celebrate.
Post # 11
such a bummer 🙁 at least it sounds like you’re handling it totally gracefully though!
Post # 12
Awww, I’m so sorry about that! It really sucks 🙁
Post # 13
awww I am so sorry 🙁 I might be minusing a bridesmaid too… she is just too busy for me so, I am going to have a talk with her when she gets back from her vacation to see if she wants to quit. I don’t have time for someone who says they want to be there for me and help me with stuff but doesn’t actually have time for me.
Post # 13
aww that stinks! I can understand why you would have a sad face.
Maybe this video might help turn that frown upside down! (maybe for a second anyway!)
Post # 14
Oh I’m really sorry to hear that. One of my dearest dearest friends is also unable to come to my wedding and while I understand her reasons, it still hurts. :-/
Its still great you have awesome friends- even if they can’t be there that day, you will always have them as a source of love and support in your life.
Post # 15
I hope it works out well. It’s hard with a little kid I’m sure. 🙂