Post # 1
I was the one asking about God telling my ex to dump me. So since then he asked me on a date (my other thread) and I said yes, but once I said yes I felt really heavy and uncertain and weird. Then he cancelled the date and I felt much better straight away.
Now I have since met a new guy and he is wonderful, handsome, good head on his shoulders, dedicated Christian etc but since seeing him a couple of times this week I am feeling heavy and weird again.
I have explained to this new guy that I am not ready to date at the moment but I’m enjoying getting to know him and he understands fully.
He has had a rough couple of years with family members dying, his ex cheated on him etc. He is not a virgin, he is remorseful about that but I do not care and do not judge him for it.
What is this feeling I’m getting? Is it like a warning or something? It’s weird to have it twice with two different people.
Post # 3
Maybe you’re just not ready to start a new committed relationship yet – it’s a lot of work! May e you need some quality time to focus on yourself before you start dating again. Good luck!
Post # 4
It could simply be indigestion or ‘that time of the month’.
I don’t think that God is asking us to be non rational beings. If you feel uneasy then respond accordingly but heaviness and weirdness probably means you need to make sure that you are eating breakfast.
Post # 5
I don’t know if the feeling is God. But I think it might be your own subconscious trying to warn you. I think you are just not ready to be in a relationship yet. I think you need some time to heal and be by yourself for awhile.
When I was younger, I use to get this feeling of uneasiness, much like you’re describing. I eventually learned that those feelings just meant I wasn’t ready for something.
Post # 6
@AussieSummer: I’m rather bothered that the subject of his (non) virginity has already come up in conversation. Who initiated that conversation? My feeling is things are moving too fast, in terms of talking about things so intimate so soon. Perhaps that is the reason for your uneasiness?
Post # 7
Whether it’s God, or your gut, or what have you, go with it and follow your instincts.
Obviously we can’t tell you if it’s “God” per se.
Post # 8
@AussieSummer: God CAN use circumstances and feelings to speak to us, but he most likely won’t.
The Bible, the Word of God, is how he chose to speak to us daily.
Do you have a devotional time of reading and prayer every day?
My advice to you is to seek God first. Really.
When FI and I got together we knew each other for four years, we were amazing friends, we served together in youth group. We never really flirted or “went out” on dates before we started a relationship.
We knew eachother as friends and as brothers in Christ first. We both had a relationship with God and served Him and then it happened.
Don’t push things. And don’t move by feelings 😉
Post # 9
I know it sounds very strange! He wanted to lay everything down on the line first up so I could walk away if I wasn’t interested. It happened years ago. He knows my ex through mutual friends and knows I’m still fragile with everything going on and didn’t want to drop a bombshell later on.
Post # 10
@AussieSummer: I dunno if that’s God, more just like intuition. If you’re not ready then you’re not ready…it’s normal to get gut feelings like that all the time.
Post # 11
It’s not God. It’s your gut. We all have it — listen to it.