(Closed) I’m getting depressed for my wedding…

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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741 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I can relate a bit, it is nerve racking to plan a wedding when you are not in your own country and feel like you have less control. I am so fortunate that his mom has been wonderful with the planning process, and really has not imposed anything we didn’t want. Although I’ve had some issues with a few vendors, like for my hair I gave the guy a picture of what I wanted and he did something completely different. It was like WTF, it’s a picture so you can’t blame it on the language! Anyways, at the end of the day it is your wedding, and you should look and have it look the way you want. Don’t be afraid to (nicely) speak up  – most people don’t think twice when the bride has an opinion, so don’t let the expat factor get in the way. If you can afford it, tell your Mother-In-Law it is really important you have the flowers you envision for your wedding and you’ll pay for it yourself. 

Good luck!

Post # 4
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1026 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@SunnieChoi:  “i know what’s the best way, i need to speak for myself, but i don’t want to make anybody upset.”

But they are making YOU upset. People treat us like we show them to treat us in many ways. You need to show them they you deserve to be treated better than this. They will give you a lot more respect if you show them that you can stand up for yourself. Stand up for yourself.

that really sounds rough though. good luck 

Post # 5
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2869 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Aww.  I’m sorry the planning is going this way 🙁 Maybe you could talk to Fiance about how you are feeling and then together the two of you could talk with his mom and try to figure things out, if you feel awkward just confronting her by yourself.

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