(Closed) I’m getting fed up! (long post)

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
Hostess
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Honestly, I don’t know if I would want to put up with that for the rest of my life.  The two of you need to have a serious talk.  Why should your mom have to inconvience herself to take you to work because he doesn’t feel like getting a car?  That is incredibly unfair of him to put that burden on your mom.

Post # 5
Hostess
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I can understand your frustration!  That’s a horrible situation to be in.

Post # 7
Member
7693 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I’m sorry, I don’t know,  but from what you just posted, I think you have a lot to work out before you go ahead and get married.

Post # 8
Member
14486 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I dont think he will change just cause he’s married.  If this is the way he is…. then this is the man he is going to be, especially at 29.  Do you see the chance that he could learn to see things differently in the future?  At 29, there should be some sort of direction.  I would be pretty fed up also, esp with damaging your car.  Brand new or not, when I lend my belongings to someone, I don’t expect it to be damanged!  You’re lucky to have your mom so accomodating to you guys, but I agree that she should not have to be put though that just cause he won’t pull his act together and makes excuses.  It sounds like you’re pretty unhappy with him right now, have you thought about postponing the wedding?  Or do you think it could just be that the wedding is getting closer and you’re getting nervous that “this is it”?

Post # 9
Member
5093 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

Honestly, it sounds like you hate him.  I think you know what you need to do.

Post # 11
Hostess
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I don’t think you should go ahead with a marriage just because you don’t think you will ever get married.  Being married to someone who doesn’t treat you well isn’t really worth being married at all.

Post # 12
Member
5093 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

Would you rather be married and miserable, or be happy and unmarried?  Marriage shouldn’t be your goal.  Marriage won’t make you happy.  Marriage to the right man?  Maybe.  But marriage to the wrong man will be one of the quickest roads to misery.

Post # 13
Member
3126 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

After watching my good friend deal with Mother-In-Law horror stories I would much rather be single than be married to a guy who caters to his mother. I won’t say he can’t change and if you think there is hope, please do everything in your power to work things out. I will say that it is very hard watching someone you love get walked all over to make Mommy Dearest happy 🙁

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