- 5 years ago
-Option 1: Have our ceremony/reception at my Aunt’s Bed & Breakfast in New York.
-Pros: The venue will be free (or cheap… she might still charge me for the space). All of my family, and my closest friends, will be there. We might be able to afford a DJ and food.
-Cons: All of their screaming/crying/bratty kids will be there too. Friends from CA probably wont fly out.
-Option 2: Have our ceremony/reception at a local Veteran’s Hall in New York.
-Pros: Cost is cheap, so we might be able to afford a DJ and food. All of my family, and closest friends will be there.
-Cons: Yellow fluorescent lighting, wood panel walls, low ceilings… depressing atmosphere. Aaaand all of their screaming/crying/bratty kids will be there. Friends from CA probably wont fly out for it.
–Option 3: Have our ceremony/reception in California, where we live.
-Pros: Beautiful atmosphere! No screaming/crying/bratty kids.
-Cons: Since it will cost quite a bit more, we wont be able to afford a reception. Most of my family and closest friends from New York will NOT fly out for it (either due to fear of flying, or costs). So it’ll be just my parents, my sister and her husband, FI’s mom, and his 2 brothers and then any friends we have out here would attend also.
I dunno. I’m ready to just say F*ck it, and elope. We don’t have a lot of money to begin with, this whole thing needs to be no more than $5,000 at the end of the day.
I really, REALLY do NOT want kids at my ceremony. I don’t want to be in the middle of my vows, and have the screeching, ear-piercing sounds of a 3-year old throwing a temper tantrum behind me. But all of my cousins have 2-3 kids EACH. Two of my cousins have a special needs child (Down’s Syndrome). How possible is it for them to get a babysitter? Probably not very likely.