Post # 1
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594 posts
Busy bee
SO I’ve decided that i am going to fib a bit on the wedding invitations and put the start time to the wedding/ceremony as 15-30 minutes earlier. Yea yea i know a few of you wouldn’t like that, but I don’t want ppl coming to my wedding late. My family is full of ppl who are firm believers in CP time! Seriously!! I have family members that come nearly 2+ hours after everything starts. I even have some who come right before it ends. I don’t want ppl coming to my reception that didn’t make the ceremony… its just my personal desire, so plz don’t rag on it.
Are any of you going to fib a bit on your invites too?
Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
Nope, mine had the exact time on it, and my family knows I’m super punctual. We had a pretty quick 20 minute ceremony that I said would start at 2:30. I checked my dad’s watch before I walked down the aisle and it was exactly 2:32. If you were late, you missed it… that sucks for you.
Post # 5
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Sugar bee
I’m not going to lie but I doubt I’m walking down the aisle at exactly 5:30 (which will be on the invites). I don’t see myself starting much later than 5:40 though. I’ll just wing it, haha.
Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
We’re having our ceremony and reception on a yacht and I said 11:30am on the invitations, though I noted on my wedding website that boarding onto the yacht isn’t open until 11:45am, so no need to be early. The place kind of sneaks up on you when you’re driving, and parking is not right next to the dock, so I wanted to give people extra time. I want to be able to depart prompty at noon, so if all my guests arrive between 11:30 and 11:45, we will be able to do that.
Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper
I think it is wrong to lie on the invites, but maybe that just is me
Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
No. I’d much rather let someone else be rude by showing up than be rude to ALL of my family and friends simultaneously by being the one who is late.
Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
Nope, we put our exact start time which is 5:30. Most people will make arrangements to be atleast a few minutes early regardless so I wouldn’t feel comfortable making them wait any longer. Our entire ceremony is less than 10 minutes and our cocktail hour doesn’t start until 6 so if we end up starting a little late, we have the time.
I personally think that telling people to show up a half hour before you plan to actually start your ceremony is a little rude. Are you planning an outdoor wedding? If so, isn’t it insanely hot in Texas in July? You may want to have some EMT’s on standby…
Post # 10
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Helper bee
I never knew people didn’t like that. I have been to over 20 weddings in the past 3 years and not one started on time. In my circle, you always put 30 min advance of the start time so people show up at that time but have time to park, get program, find a seat, say hi to other people they know, etc.
Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
I don’t really see this as lying, I’ve been to plenty of events where the time stated is not the actual start time and they have included a 10 minute buffer. 30 minutes is a bit much and it’s not really going to help you with guests who are going to be 2+ hours late or showing up at the end.
Post # 12
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Helper bee
I’ll be honest, as a guest I’d be pissed. Most weddings don’t start on time to begin with so if your wedding was at say 5pm, and you tell me to get there for 4:30. I arrive at 4:15 because I would obviously give myself a little extra time. So as your guest I would be sitting there from 4:15 until probably 5:15 when you actually get to the aisle. I would be bullshit if I had to sit there for an hour, as close as I am to some people no one likes to sit around for an hour waiting, especially in the heat.
Post # 13
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Sugar bee
I’m not fibbing on my time. But I understand CP time… if you have folks that follow CP time definitely fib! Golly, it’s like they don’t understand that 6:30 means 6 freaking 30. Baha! Funny thing is, it’s the same way in Africa. Go figure 🙂
EDIT: Also, I was very thankful for some weddings that didn’t start “on time”. I am horrible at getting lost going to different cities for weddings. So the extra 15-30 minutes helps me not look like a dumbass!
Post # 14
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Helper bee
lol no need to be grumpy guys! Im from a huge family and everyone is late. we are having an outdoor wedding with tons of kids attending and that always seems to make people run a few minutes behind. Im putting 4 on the invites planning on 430 start. 415 is an awkward time to put on an invite so 30 min wait it is!
Post # 15
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Busy bee
i understand the reason for putting an earlier time on the invites… i always tell my cousin about an hour before the time that everyone else is arriving for dinner because he is ALWAYS late…
I was at my friends wedding last october and 98% of people arrived on time… I saw one couple arriving JUST as they finished signing the papers… i thought that was rude!
Post # 16
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Busy Beekeeper
I put 6 on ours, and we started right then, and only one person was late
