(Closed) I’m going to lie…….

posted 9 years ago in Paper
  • poll: Are you putting an earlier time on your invites?
    Yes : (52 votes)
    27 %
    No : (132 votes)
    68 %
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  • Post # 17
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2019 - Paris, France

    We won’t be lying, but no one will be coming into the chapel until the ceremony is over if they did not make it before it started

    Post # 18
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Your family might generally be late, but is his?  Your friends?  Do you intend to pass the word to them? 

    Post # 19
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    Worker bee

    I’d be one of the grumpy guests if I found I arrived early, as I always do, only to find the wedding doesn’t begin for another 30 minutes. Another thing to consider is people with disabilities. I have severe arthritis and sitting even 30 minutes is near impossible.

    Post # 20
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    my church actually said to do this because they want to make sure the wedding starts on time.  I’m definitely considering it.

    Post # 22
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    Busy Beekeeper

    i didnt lie, but all my friends know me for being notoriously late. so of course my ceremony started about 30 mins late!  no one was worried though, they knew i was coming and they were sitting in the shade!  and i was late because my baby (4 months old) niece was having a crying fit! and my sister had to walk down the aisle carrying her!

    Post # 23
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    @lwilliams107: Yeah I just went to a wedding on a Friday night, at 6:30, when there was a lot of traffic because of rush hour and an Elton John concert going on a block away, and that started right on time, which kind of irked me because we rolled in 5 minutes late.  Even though we left the house 30 minutes before start time and live like 7 miles away thinking that was plenty of time.  So I think if you know your guests might be surprised by the amount of traffic or what not, planning to start a little later is the courteous thing to do. 30 minutes might be pushing it, but if you know your crowd well enough go for it. 

    Post # 25
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    Buzzing bee

    If you know your family is chronically late, I see no problem with it. Hopefully it works out for you!

    Post # 26
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    You could always put ‘6pm sharp’ on the invite, instead of the earlier time.  Don’t know about your venue, but if its a curch or somewhere with doors, you could arrange to have the doors closed and locked after you walk down the aisle so no late comers interupt.

    Also, funny story, my dad’s parents had to run down the aisle between the bridesmaids and my mum walking down the aisle, because they were relying on her being late and she was right on time. 🙂

    ETA: Forgot to say that at our outdoor wedding we are saying 3pm on the invites, but I’ll walk down the aisle at 3.30pm. However we are having pre ceremony champagne and tea sandwiches being taken around by waiters for our guests during the wait so they can chat and explore the gardens a bit before we start the ceremony.

    Post # 27
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I am putting 5 on the invites and am starting at 515. I see no problem with that 🙂 5 looks better on the invites too.

    ETA: My venue is such that any late-comers would be extremely disruptive :/

    Post # 28
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    Blushing bee

    I’m going to put the ceremony starts at 11am but it isn’t actually going to start until 11:20.

    Post # 29
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Lying on the invites is punishing the people that are on time. I’d prefer to reward the on-timers with less wait time and punish the late-comers by making them wait outside/sit way in the back.

    True many weddings don’t start on time anyway. So that makes the wait even longer. Example: You told them 5. Planned on starting at 5:30. Actual start time 5:45. Someone that planned accordingly and showed at 4:45 to get a good seat/be a good guest will be waiting for 1 hour. Too long. Way too long.

    Post # 30
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I get your reasoning for it, but it may irritate the people who not only arrive on time, but early.  But maybe a few annoyed guests is better than disruptive late comers? Not sure, your choice.

    Post # 31
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I d on;t think its rude really. Who cares, makes sense to me!!

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