(Closed) I’m going to be getting married at my heaviest…

posted 7 years ago in Wellness
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I was at my heaviest when we got married, too, and my advice is to just not worry about it (easier said than done, I know!), because the more you stress, the harder it is to lose the weight. You still have seven months to go, so that’s plenty of time to make the effort. Little things help–take the stairs, park further away from the building so you have to walk more, etc. Put a rubber band on your wrist and SNAP IT when you start making excuses! You can do it. 🙂

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@SweetRose2011: It must be in the air.  I was complaining to J last night.  Told him I look like those naked potraits people painted back in the day.  You know of the “real” women who had the rolls and bellies exposed?  Hahaha.  He looked at me like “what the hell?!” But I am uncomfortable in my skin as well.  He says he loves it.  I try my best to work out and such, but I’m so tired from working half the time.  I feel like it’s all excuses as well.  

I think that once the weather picks up, you should go for walks, bike rides, etc.  That’s definitely a start to get you more motivated.  It’s what I plan to do.  Just hate waiting for the damn warmth!  Oh, and go roller skating!  I hear that burns more calories than you’d ever expect.

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I feel like I’m in the same boat as well.

My motivation was good (I rejoined WW and started getting back to the gym). I just hit a set back (injured back and no exercise for 4-6 weeks) and instead of taking the opportunity to fix other unhealthy aspects of my life by eating better and cleaner I’m throwing myself a pity party and thinking well now I’m just going to be heavy for the wedding.

Motivation is very hard to come by especially when stressed. Sometimes just making tiny changes are the easiest.

I.e. make a point to go to bed 1/2 an hour earlier. Always carry a giant water bottle with you so you have to drink water all day. (I get 3-5 water bottles every morning and put them on my desk and make a point to drink them all by the end of the day).

As the weather gets nicer, go for a walk outside or a walk in a nice shopping area rather than going to a movie or doing something sedentary.

Try and do things together with your Fiance, maybe take a healthy cooking class, explore farmers markets together, and focus on eating fresh.

And, if you are at your heaviest for the wedding, everyone will still think you are beautiful because your happiness and love will shine through no matter what size your pants are or what number you are on the scale. Happiness and love is beautiful no matter what the person’s size.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

By The Way – how much are you looking to lose?

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I wasn’t at my heaviest when I got married, but I was heavier than I was when we first met. We were 17 when we met, and I was underweight. So the weight gain was kinda good for me. I tried to focus on staying healthy, having glowing skin, and being toned. I am much healthier now (than I was when we first met),  and I looked great in my swimsuits on our honeymoon.  

At first I was kinda sad that I wasn’t the same size that I was when we first met, but I feel like I am sexier now. I understand now that my body may never be that small again, but that doesn’t mean that it is a bad thing. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011 - Franciscan Gardens

@SweetRose2011: Gosh, I feel like I could have written this myself! Every night when I go to bed, I say to myself “tomorrow will be the day that I start eating right!” and then I go to school and work and just eat whatever is convenient! I’m *trying* to pull my inspiration from my enagement photos… I was heavy in them and I hate.every.single.one. I don’t want to hate my wedding photos after spending 3k on them!

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Miss Marine: I do the same thing.

I was thinner when we first met.  Too thin, but I gained weight that fit me best.  Unfortunately, I continued to gain weight.

Want to hear what’s weird?  I lost all of my weight when I didn’t exercise and my diet consisted of alcohol, diner and bar food.  Truth.  I would always drink water in between that too and I still drink a ton of water.

Now I eat better.  Excerise when I can.  But nothing happens.  Uncool.

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@SweetRose2011: That’s always the first step. Realizing what we are doing and trying to figure out why.

It’s hard. I have frozen chicken breasts at home, yet most nights I decide to order in or eat a lean cuisine instead.

Really, how much more effort would it be to pull out a chicken breast in the morning to defrost, and spend 10 min cooking it when I get home?

I think slowly getting into good habits is key. It can even be as simple as changing the way you walk/drive home so you aren’t going by your temptation points (i.e. try and take a route that doesn’t go by arby’s when you are hungry).

Also surrounding yourself with good food tends to help, if you don’t have junk in the house, it’s harder to eat junk. And if you have healthy snacks with you at all times (like carrot sticks, string cheese, nuts, etc) it’s harder to justify a stop at the fast food place.

(Again this is all advice I should take myself, isn’t it always easier to give others advice then it is to follow your own?)

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

@SweetRose2011: I kinda forced myself to eat right. I was having digestive issues and found that I felt better when I cut out certain things. I found it easier to just not buy unhealthy foods. If it is not in the house, then you can’t eat it. 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I could have written this post a while back. Six months before my wedding I finally got my butt in gear and lost 20 pounds, but I started out slow as molasses. I completely understand your lack of motivation. Here’s how I got around it:

1. Start small. I would take the stairs instead of the elevator, go for a walk if I found myself lazing about the house wondering what to do, and I stopped snacking in front of the TV.

2. Don’t deprive yourself of too much. While I did slash my calorie intake considerably and switched to whole grains, lean meats, and cut out sugary options for the most part, I still let myself have a couple of “cheat” foods each week as long as they fit into my calorie allowance. So even though I was eating less, I didn’t feel deprived in the slightest. Caveat: don’t keep your “cheat” foods stocked, make yourself go out and get them on an individual basis if you really need that slice of cake. If you have to work for it you will appreciate it all the more.

3. Eat smaller meals more often. Seriously. I actually felt like I was eating more than before I started trying to lose weight. It’s immensely satisfying to feel like you’re eating a ton while seeing your reflection get slimmer.

4. Make something about it fun. I guess I never lost the little kid thrill of getting stars for when I’d done a good job. So I’d give myself a gold star on my calendar for every day I worked out or did something active, and a green star for every day I kept to my calorie limit and ate healthy options. Watching my calendar fill up with stars made me feel like a million bucks.

 

I think the main thing is not to think of it as losing weight for the wedding. The wedding’s a good goal, but you need to do this just because you want to. You’ve acknowledge that you’re not as comfortable in your own skin as you’d like to be, and that should be your real incentive. I know that if I had gained 20 pounds instead of lost them, everyone still would have told me I looked beautiful on my wedding day. What mattered to me was that I felt beautiful.

So do what makes you happy, sweetie! 🙂

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I totally feel you about the lack of motivation. I actually just worked out for the first time this week because I decided I had no more excuses. And now I’m looking forward to a workout tomorrow. I think it’s easier to keep going once you start, but to start is really hard!! I’m in the same boat as you… not so much that I gained weight, but my body just doesn’t look the way I want it to. Thinking about how hot and gorgeous I’ll feel when I tone up is what I’m trying to use as my motivation.

@linguo42: I LOVE that idea about the stars!! As a teacher, sticker stars are one of my favorite things. And it’s so visual that once you see the stars aren’t appearing as much, it would really light a fire and up the motivation. Genius!

 

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