I’m going to end my engagement

posted 1 year ago in Engagement
Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2019 - Green Bay, WI

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moissamight :  We were friendly, but not friends. If I had to text him about something I could, and it wasn’t weird. There’s no anger or hard feelings anymore. I ran into his new girlfriend and his sister recently and had a nice conversation with them that wasn’t awkward at all, so that’s good.

Post # 17
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

I would recommend counseling/therapy, both individual and couple’s, before breaking it off.

Post # 20
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Honey bee

You did the right thing, which is often the hard thing. I know it hurts, but you will come out stronger with a better understanding of what you will and will not tolerate in a partner. I ended an engagement and it was absolutely the best thing I could have done. 

Post # 20
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018 - City, State

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alibe1988 :  He punched the wall?? Damn! Yeah, he’s escalating … I’m proud of you for getting out now! You took a step a lot of women never feel able to do. Please be kind to yourself during the transition <3

Post # 21
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

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alibe1988 :  

Trying to manipulate you via guilt—emotional abuse.

Yelling mean things at you—verbal abuse.

Hitting a wall—emotional abuse. Smacking a wall qualifies as abuse, the objective was to intimidate you. Consider yourself warned.

Manylovesbee1 is right, he is escalating. Leaving someone who is abusive can get dangerous. You could easily miscalculate his potential for violence. 

Be certain not to be alone with him again. And, No Contact is exactly the right next step.

Here is some information about what intimate partner abuse is.

 

Types of Domestic Violence

 

Post # 23
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2019 - Green Bay, WI

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alibe1988 :  I’m so proud of you for sticking with it. I know it’s tough. Now after reading your update I can relate even more with you. My ex also spent all his money on himself like stupid video games, and he said similar things to me when I tried to break it off. He said he’d change, he’d get better, he’d do better, and I did give him that extra chance and went through with the wedding but then he NEVER changed. He didn’t do a damn thing. I knew he wouldn’t change, but I stupidly wanted to believe it at the time.

He’s happier now, and I’m happier now. And he didn’t have to change, and neither did I.

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All the best <3

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