Post # 1
I was the one who posted the “cross necklace” thread a few days ago. I don’t know why but this whole situation really bugs the shit out of me and it’s changed my view of our relationship. I’ve done a lot of thinking and it seems like ending the relationship is the right thing to do.
Him being a Christian has always bugged me a little bit but now I feel like it’s a huge obstacle that I can’t really overcome. There are way too many potential pitfalls and I think we’d both be happier if we went our separate ways. My family thinks I’m making a huge mistake but I really don’t think so.
If he was willing to become an Atheist, I might reconsider a relationship with him but I feel like that’s too much to ask.
I’m going to break up with him but I’m not sure how to do it. I don’t want to be a bitch or hurt his feelings anymore than I already have.
I suppose this was more of a diary post than anything but advice/critcism/whatever is welcome too.
Post # 3
I wish you luck and I think its for the best for both of you. But…..you closed both of those threads, why are you opening up a brand new one?
Post # 4
@EmilyInIdaho: so….you aren’t willing to become a Christian for him and from the sounds of it he hasn’t actually pressured you to, but you’ll leave him because he won’t become an Athiest? Personally I think that’s BS and if you two love each other and he’s a good man, this whole cross incident isn’t a reason to just end everything.
Post # 5
@EmilyInIdaho: Are you looking for more opinions? or just wanting to get that off your chest.
Post # 6
Wow! What a sad escalation from something that was intended to be so thoughtful. I guess if you truly feel that strongly about this issue you’re doing the right thing, and the obvious inability to co-exist with him surely brings up the question of whether this is the best possible decision for you both, but man I feel for him because I think he is going to be blindsided.
Post # 7
@EmilyInIdaho: Do what makes you happy. Having the same religion as my husband is great. There’s no fighting about where to go on Sunday mornings – the dog park.
Post # 8
I don’t understand how this wasn’t laid out on the table at the beginning of the relationship. In fact, you defended him multiple times saying he would never push anything on you, that you both understand eachother, even have plans for kids.
I feel bad for him.
Post # 9
@EmilyInIdaho: I think it’s better to realize it now rather than later. I personally could never be with someone that was Christian just because our views would be so different. I can totally understand where you’re coming from. Best of luck!
Post # 10
I’m confused about this. It seems as though he has never pushed this on you and you even had plans for kids. I feel a bit bad for him as well. Are there other issues you guys are having?
Post # 11
@Peachytalk: Sorry, I guess it’s more of a confession/rant/update.
Post # 13
@EmilyInIdaho: It seems like you’ve been having doubts/insecurities about this guy for a few weeks now. Your decision is probably for the best. Good luck – breakups can be so rough no matter who initiates it.
Post # 14
Oh, no- I feel terrible for him. From your other threads, he seemed 100% thoughtful and gentle and never like he was trying to convert you- just like he was trying to protect you in a way that he believed in. If you think this is the right thing for you, then do it- it’s good to be confident in one’s decisions and it sounds like you are. But I’m sure he will be very suprised and heartbroken.
Post # 15
Although your Fiance seemed like he was laidback about his Christian faith, it is sad that you couldn’t seem to accept this part of him. Religious differences can be overcome, but it doesn’t seem like you were willing to compromise on anything.
Post # 16
Based on your previous posts, it seems like you just can’t accept the fact that he has a different belief system-even if he has no intentions of pushing it on you. You want him to understand your beliefs, but are unwilling to respect his (and believing them and respecting them are two very different things). Neither of you are going to change-so if you can’t co-exist then yes. breaking up probably makes the most sense.
Good luck finding someone who shares your beliefs.