(Closed) I'm going to end the relationship. (Cross necklace spinoff).

posted 6 years ago in Secular
Post # 77
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Bumble bee

@EmilyInIdaho:  I feel bad for him but its dror the best… If ur nt willing to accept his forms of spirituality than it cn nvr work… Hoping for the best for both of u ( I almost said praying eek)

Post # 78
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m athiest and couldn’t be with a Christian (or someone of any religion) either. Good for you for realizing that before marriage! I basically think believing in religion is the same as believing in fairy tales, and I couldn’t be with someone who actually believes in it. Even if they didn’t want me to change my beliefs, the fact that they could believe in it would mean we aren’t compatible.

Post # 79
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1654 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

That’s bullshit. I feel bad for him. Fiance and I are two separate religions, and both have us have given religious tokens to the other.

Your dude is apparently a good guy but because he won’t lose his faith you are deciding to leave him? Your parents are right in this case.

Post # 80
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@EmilyInIdaho:  I’m so sorry that you’re going through all of this, and I wish you the best in the future. For what it’s worth, I thought that MANY posters on your other thread were downright awful and out of line. Actually, I think some of these posters are being pretty condescending too. I read them with a work friend and we were irate on your behalf. Maybe it would be worthwhile to think things over away from the ‘Bee? I think you were treated unfairly, and that it can sometimes make things seem worse than they are. Best of luck and hugs for you.

Post # 81
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

@kmc110:  To athiests, Christians don’t believe in something “higher then themselves”. To us, they believe in a self-contradicting politcal lie that is tantamount to a fairy tale. The only positive side of Christianity is (some) of the morals it teaches, but since non-Christians have those same morals, it’s really just the fairy tale lies that are left.

 

Post # 82
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@crayfish:  Oh dear gosh. You probably shouldn’t turn this girl’s issue into a giant religious debate/bashing session of why you hate religion so much. Totally out of place.

Post # 83
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

People of two different religious persuasions dating is always asking for trouble.

“If he was willing to become an Atheist, I might reconsider a relationship with him but I feel like that’s too much to ask.”

Someone can’t just change what they believe like that. If you believe in things that aren’t there, no amount of telling you they’re not there is going to change your belief. Likewise, if it’s obvious to you that the stuff that isn’t there… isn’t there, no amount of begging will make you believe in stuff that isn’t there. That’s just how it is.

@crayfish:  +1 Same for me. The simple fact of being religious and believing in something that is patently not there means that our belief systems are diametrically opposed. There’s not going to be compromise there.

Post # 84
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Blushing bee

@crayfish:  You are out of line! Please do not call my religion a fairy tale. Just because you are not a believer does not give you ANY RIGHT to be disrespectful.

Post # 85
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@wifey2be:  + A BILLION

OMG! I cannot believe these replies. Well put, madam. 

@crayfish:  Bingo! Well put. This is difficult to explain. EDIT: Not out of place. Your comment was relevant In My Humble Opinion.

Thank you ladies for being the voice of sanity. I think many of the things which pp are referring to we’re taken out of context. I’m shocked at these responses! There’s the odd thread where OP is being a jerk and needs someone to give it to her straight, but this is sooo not one of them. This is sad, and OP doesn’t need to get dumped on more. Geez.

 

Post # 86
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Bumble bee

@crayfish:  nt necessary and completely irrelevant as this is nt a religious debate but a matter of two hearts 

Post # 87
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID

@kmc110:  +1

Post # 88
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID

@crayfish:  Not really necessary. Just because you don’t believe it, doesn’t mean it’s a lie. You can’t prove God doesn’t exist just as much as they can’t prove that he does. 

Post # 89
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

OP, I will not flame you for your decision to break up with your man over different beliefs. I will say that your comment about staying with him “only” if her considered converting is very selfish. Break up with the guy and let him move on and you do the same.

@jaylinjo:  +1. I am not even going to start on how disrespectful those comments are. I’m a proud believer and I am not going to defend my faith to anyone.

Post # 90
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@jaylinjo:  I kinda agree it hurts when those that dunt believe think of our faith as such…but there are some on here that are hard to them to. I feel everyone should be kind because coming into this post whether atheist or christian or “other” there will be some disagreement. I won’t get to defensive about something they dun’t believe in some I will leave it there. Even if they think christians believe in fairtails and such doesn’t make us stupid or less human respect needs to be given all around.

Post # 91
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2007

It’s good that you’re leaving him now before the relationship goes any further. I couldn’t be with anyone “unequally yoked”, either. I am atheist and I definitely would not have married a believer, no matter how kind/sweet/nonthreatening they were.

 

He’s  going to be hurt, but it’s honestly for the best since religion is a dealbreaker for you. Good luck! 

 

 

 

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