I want to refrain from being hateful as many have been. I do agree breaking up sounds like a good choice for you both. I think he’ll be happier with someone who can accept and respect his beliefs, and you’ll be happier without having to feel religious pressure. For example having kids, I bet he’d want to baptise your children, and you’d probably be very uncomfortable, and in that case theres hardly compromise.
With that being said, I just don’t see why it had to come to this. If you REALLY love this man and he will be loving and caring and loyal to you and you can be the same, I feel like religion could be worked around. If he isn’t very devout and doesn’t regularly attend church or incorporate religion into his life, I feel like the issues could be dealt with. It sounds like he believes in God, and the power of prayer and belief, and he respects religious symbols and being a Christian when he feels it’s important.
The issues I’ve read you had are:
-Him giving you a religious symbol
-Him praying for you
To me, looking at this from the athiest perspectives given, you feel like the belief in God is ridiculous and that there’s no higher power, and that God is a silly political/agenda driven belief.
So I look at it this way,
Let’s say my husband believes that Hello Kitty, is the creator of me and you, and earth, and that Hello Kitty will help us find strength if we ask, and that Hello kitty provides Miracles. While this may sound so silly because to me Hello Kitty is just a made up cartoon, if that’s what he REALLY truly believes and was so strong about, I would move past how silly or against it I may be, because I love him and he is otherwise my best friend and a great partner.
If he wanted to ask Hello Kitty to help me, and wanted to give me a necklace that represents Hello Kitty, (I know this is very different than God and Crosses because it’s a pop culture refrence) I would just go with it, because to me, being the non “hello kitty” (God in your case) believer, than he’s just saying words and making a wish, and giving me a piece of metal with no power, but it makes him feel GOOD and feel like I’m SAFE
Then sure, by all means, for the man I love I’d respect HIS beliefs. And maybe allow something that feels foolish to me.
I mean, for sure dump him and draw the line if he disrespects your nonbeliefs so far as to ask YOU to pray, and ask YOU to attend church , and whatever else forces you to partake in the beliefs. But the necklace, which was borderline and made you uncomforable, he was fine with taking back and he was so appologetic to you. He is clearly very respectful of your non-belief, but you seem to step over into his zone where he should be safe to practice his religion. I mean, I could see saying “If you’d like to pray for me, I respect that, but please don’t tell me about it because I feel uncomfortable with the thought, but I totally respect your beliefs”