Post # 1
So my Fiance and I are getting married and holding our reception at the same venue but in different area (we couldn’t find a church – really long story). Anyways, chairs for guests will be set up between a double staircase (see 1/2 below) and there will be an aisle down the middle. The bridal room is on the top and to the left (if you are looking at the picture). The coordinator thinks it’s best to have the processional like this:
- Groomsmen 1 walks up the left staircase and meets the Bridesmaid or Best Man 1 at the top.
- Groomsmen 1 and Bridesmaid or Best Man 1 walk across the top
- When they get to the right staircase, they start to go down. Simultaneously, Groomsmen 2 starts to walk up the staircase and meets Bridesmaid or Best Man 2.
- Groomsmen 2 and Bridesmaid or Best Man 2 walk across and down
- My dad comes up the left staircase and meets me at the top. We walk across and go down the right staircase and then go up the aisle.
So here are my concerns:
- My mom thinks I should stop for pictures at the top, which I think is ridiculous! We can stage some pictures later, but to stop in the middle of the processional!?! This isn’t a pageant!
- I’m wearing 4″ heels (I normally wear heels) but my dress is definitely on the fuller side with a chapel length train. I’m worried about literally falling down the steps – how am I supposed to hold onto my bouquet and be escorted by my dad and hold the edge of my dress up?
- This seems like really gaudy and awkward to me. I don’t like being the center of attention and having everyone watching me (I get rather anxious). We aren’t having a head table for this very reason!
- It sounds like a crazy theatrical performance to me!!
What advice can anyone offer? Suggestions? Recommendations? Alternatives?
My dress before alterations (and being steamed!). The seamstress did say that the hem will be 1 inch from the floor, particularly because of having to walk down a set of stairs. The area below the waist will be taken in to be a bit more form fitting as well.
Post # 3
I was terrified enough of tripping on my dress walking across a flat surface. Well I have a lot of experience with cumbersome dresses (long story). I can tell you walking down the stairs doesn’t require holding your dress, like walking up the stairs does. So if you are holding on to your bouquet and dad, holding your dress might not be as big a concern. (Although I’m not sure how long your train is, or if it will get in the way.)
Can you practice walking down stairs in your dress? Maybe at your home? And it looks like those stairs are carpeted. So make sure you try to practice on carpeted stairs. That makes a difference. Hopefully you’ll find that it works out OK.
To be honest I totally understand your apprehension. But if you can feel comfortable about pulling it off, it will be a really cool, memorable entrance.
Post # 4
I’m worried too, I have to walk down stairs (assuming its an outdoor ceremony!) and it scares me a lot! My only advice is to practice. I know it sounds so strange, but given the fact that I have a trumpet dress and 4 inch heels, I’ve been practicing walking down the stairs. Because I don’t want to fall, and I also don’t want to be looking down at the ground as I descend the stairs- that’s not photo worthy at all!
Post # 5
you’ll do fine! just practice.
Post # 6
I walked down the stairs alone pre-ceremony and the photographer took photos of me. I was fine just held the dress up with one hand and then held on the the banister. My SIL walked down stairs during her ceremony. She had the ushers hold the train of the dress which was smart because it lifted the front just enough to get down. She also had her dad to help support her.
Post # 7
Hold your bouquet in your left hand, loop your right arm thru your dad’s (like you’re escorting him rather than him escorting you) – that way you can hold your dress up with your right hand. When you get to the bottom you can put your hand on his for arm and he can take the lead.
I think you should at the very least pause at the top but not really stop because people will be taking pics but they’ll expect you to start moving.
It seems odd to have people walking up and down the steps. Can’t you just have Bridesmaid or Best Man & Groomsmen start from opposite sides, meet at the stairs and walk down?
Post # 8
Thanks everyone for the advice and words of encouragement!
@camrie – the problem is that the bridal room is upstairs and the room for the guys is downstairs. There is only one room upstairs, hence the whole up and down the stairs thing.
Post # 9
I have the same issue and decided together with my coordinator to have my dad wait at the bottom of the stairs for me. Then I can hold my bouquet and my dress with different hands, and also have a little “me” moment on the stairs. Then meet my dad at the bottom, and walk down the aisle together.