(Closed) Um… I guess I’m going to be an aunt…

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1482 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Well… first of all, this is probably a really crazy time for your sister.  I know that this brings up a lot of feelings about yourself, but maybe just concentrate on being the best sister that you can be.  This is probably not how your sister envisioned having her first baby, and she’s going to need her big sister to be supportive.  And especially with her Boyfriend or Best Friend not being around, she’s going to need a lot of help from her family and need you to be there for her.

I definitely don’t think that it will take away from when you decide to get married and have kids.  Babies are always special, whether they are the first grandchild, or the 15th.  And as far as your relationship with YOUR Boyfriend or Best Friend goes… I don’t think it should matter or effect it in any way.  It would be one thing if YOU were the one who was pregnant, but since it’s your sister… meh, why would it make him change how he feels about the pace of your relationship?

 

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Um, yeah, it’s not going to take anything away from when you have a baby someday (i’m guessing after you marry your bf). All you can do is be a supportive sister–after all, it’s not like she planned on getting knocked up from this guy. And as far as happiness goes, it may take awhile for your mom to even come around. Your mom probably isn’t going to be bouncing off the walls to find out her freshman daughter got pregnant–there will be lots of questions about how the baby will be cared for, what of the dad, what of her education, etc, before your mom settles into a happy place. If anything, it’ll be STRESSFUL and your sis will probably need a shoulder to cry on, and i’m guessng this is why she told you first =]. But, I don’t see how this will in any way shape or form affect your relationship with your Boyfriend or Best Friend, though. He’s a guy…he may be quite indifferent to the whole situation!!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I know how you feel! My brother had a baby scare a while back and it was sad to think that I wasn’t going to be the first to have babies and get married. Obviously I would have been super happy for them but being the oldest it wa hard to deal with it. It turned out they weren’t pregnant and my mom even told me it was a good thing, because she wanted my babies to be her first grandbabies πŸ™‚

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Um, you DO have something to show for being responsible. You’re not an unwed pregnant 19-year-old. I can’t even imagine how freaked out she is right now, definitely make sure you are there for her – it’s bigger than any “I wanted to have kids first” feelings.

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

You’re being way more supportive that I would =]. I’m wondering why condoms or birth control weren’t part of their “what if” plan!!!! I think the fears will subside soon. Also–the military is full of young brides and mothers so she will be able to bond with the other ladies when her bf gets deployed and she will have that support system.

Post # 11
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Oh I’m sorry to hear that. But i honestly don’t see how your mother will be harder on you and your older sister? if anything comes up, pull your mother aside, tell her you won’t be making the same mistakes and are taking precautions, and don’t let her think you’ll make the same choices your sister has. You are DIFFERENT people.And as far as the “lazy” thing and disappointment? Because of your disability?!?! I find that completely ridiculous and i’m sorry they’ve projected that onto you.

PS i’m eating potatoes right now and thinking about you, lol

Post # 13
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Either way, it’s a shame your sister is 19, knocked up, getting married because of it. Definitely an uphill battle for sure. Ah, well, the baby won’t want for anything, I can see the plus side of that. and as long as its parents love it and can make it work, that’s about all you can ask for in this world nowadays.

I’m sorry to hear about yoru parents, it’s really unfortunate your mom has one view and your dad has another one!!! All i can say is, if you know your mom is going to crack down on you a little bit, keep some distance. At least you know it’s coming, right?

 

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