Post # 1
So my parents figured out they missed inviting a few people a month ago or so. We were just going to leave it since it seemed the list was getting too large. But, now that we’ve pretty much gotten the final number, looked like it wouldn’t hurt to add a few more.
I spoke with my dad the other day about it, said that we could invite 3 out of the 5 people, as I don’t really know one of the couples. They’re friends of my parents, and I’ve only met them twice. My dad’s reply, “I’m going to invite them, then”. I was very straight-forward with him and said, “No, you won’t. It’s not your wedding. It’s Fiance and I’s. Fiance doesn’t even know these people by name, nevermind by face. I’ve only met them twice. No.”
I called my Mum yesterday and what does she tell me? That Dad has invited that couple, anyway. I had to stifle a scream. In one ear, out the other. It doesn’t matter in the grand scheme of things, as it’s only 2 extra guests and they haven’t even given an answer yet. But it’s the principle, that he went completely behind my back after I distinctly told him, no. I figured giving him half of what he wanted was good enough, but apparently not.
He was a thorn in my side at the beginning of the planning (you know how it’s usually the MOB or the MOG that goes crazy? My Dad decided to take that on, instead of the women), toned down after my Mum had a big talk with him (“you better back the f*ck before they cancel the whole wedding and elope!”) and has now decided to take matters into his own hands. 1 more month….
Post # 3
Who is paying for the wedding?
Post # 5
It’s been split between Fiance and I and my parents. They wanted us to have a live band and open bar, so they’re paying for that. My Mom has also paid for my dress. Fiance and I are taking on everything else. I sat down with my parents before the planning started and they told us that all decisions were up to us (except the open bar and live band), ESPECIALLY the final guest list. They would give us ideas, opinions, but in the end it was Fiance and I’s final decisions to make. My Mom was VERY adamant on this, as their wedding was completely taken over by the parents, but they paid for the whole thing. They wanted to help out, but still make sure it was mine and FI’s day…. if that all makes sense, lol. THE POINT IS, them pitching in a bit was not supposed to dictate anything else.
Post # 6
Yeah but the fact that they are putting a good bit of money towards it means they get to change their mind and pretty much do what they want in the end.
Doesn’t suck any less but based on the finances partially coming from them, he can do this if he wants to.
Post # 7
Yeah I don’t know, if my parents were funding the open bar (expensive!), entertainment and my dress I’d let the 2 guest thing go. It’s really not that big a deal in the overall wedding is it?
Post # 8
It’s only two more people. At this point in the planning process, this close to the wedding, you cannot sweat the small stuff like this. Everything will be fine! Yes, it is the principle of the matter but you can’t let these things get to you or it will drive you crazy! Are those two people really going to make that big of a difference on your day? No. It will be all about you and your DH, so just keep that in mind and don’t get too hung up over this!
Post # 9
You let let the little things like this get to you, you are going to be pulling your hair out by the wedding. Since he is paying for a big portion of the wedding, I would just let it go and be the better person.
Post # 10
It doesn’t matter in the grand scheme of things, as it’s only 2 extra guests and they haven’t even given an answer yet. But it’s the principle, that he went completely behind my back after I distinctly told him, no.
I’m not pulling my hair out, and I won’t. I just needed to vent that my own father went behind my back…