- 1 year ago
My girlfriend and I have been together for 7 years and have talked about getting married for a very long time.
A while ago she and I looked at some rings, but I told her there were no imminent plans to propose. When she asked when I was thinking I would, I suggested it was a year or so off being realistic for me to propose, to throw her off the scent.
What she doesn’t know is I actually bought one of the rings two days after we looked and a family member is hiding it for me.
My girlfriend has no idea there is a ring, or any plans afoot to propose and the reasons for delaying for about a year are legitimate enough that she doesn’t question them.
There is a very important date of a deceased loved one that she has talked about as being a possible wedding date in the future, and that is the day I’m planning to propose as we will be with some of her favourite people that day, but will still have time to go off on our own etc.
I’m not concerned about that part of things, but what I’m wondering is this:
I’ve never given her a proper love letter, but I’ve written one that is tied to this date and the person it relates to, our love and time together and my hopes for our future.
I am always up before she is, but was thinking I could leave the letter on her nightstand, so she will see it in the morning before she sees me.
I’m wondering what thoughts people have on this. Do you think it will negatively preempt the proposal she doesn’t have any idea is coming? If she asks why I wrote it, in advance of me asking her, do you think I get away with ‘because these are things you need to know, things I wanted to say and today seemed like a good day to tell you?’
Here are some exerpts that aren’t identifying enough for her to figure it out, if she’s on here too:
“I think of [the person] daily and the legacy of impact they had on those who they shared their love with, you and me included.”
“Ours is a relationship that has already seen better, and survived worse, has seen relative riches, before experiencing being considerably poorer, sickness and health.
Not matter what obstacles we’ve faced together, each day, we’ve reaffirmed our love to each other, and have grown stronger together.
Your smile, eternal happiness, curiousity, desire for adventures, whether in the kitchen or travel, your big heart and the love you have for [people we care about] are all things I love about you.
Today, I can’t imagine my life without you, and I know we’ve got a long way to go to reach ‘[the person]’ status, but it is a worthy goal and a journey I want to take with you.
I hope we have many years of being happy, healthy and wealthy ahead of us, but one thing our years together have taught me is no matter where we live, or what’s wrong, or how poor we find ourselves, having you with me, will be enough to make it a journey I’m willing to take.”
I’d love to hear your thoughts, and thanks in advance for the help!