(Closed) Im going to pull my hair out….

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
  • poll:
    The perfect venue is worth it. Break the bank. : (4 votes)
    7 %
    You can be happily married anywhere. Not worth it. : (54 votes)
    93 %
  • Post # 3
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    14661 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Personally, for me, it would not be worth it.  That kind of tight financal stress would drive me up the wall.  There’s no way I could handle it and justify spending everything I had for a venue or my wedding.

    Post # 5
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    13 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Sounds to me like, even if the venue rentals are fair, if they’ve got an exclusive catering contract, then you have to think of that sticker price as a whole when you’re thinking of the venue.  There were a couple of places I fell in love with when I was venue searching that I had to nix because of overpriced or inflexible caterers.  Think of what else you could put that $2000 toward, and if paying for the catering so you can get your dream venue wins out, then that’s great.  But for me, I got to the point where I limited my search to venues where I could get whatever kind of catering I wanted, because I knew I’d be getting a competitive price.  It’s your wedding, you should decide what you’re eating!

     

    Post # 6
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    811 posts
    Busy bee

    Hmm I personally wouldn’t put myself through that much stress right before a really stressful day but it is your choice, just seems like a lot of added pressure

    Post # 8
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    4755 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    not worth it…

    Post # 10
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    @eeruhlig:  That’s not so bad then I guess.  If it’s something you can budget for, and you are happy with the savings that you leave in tact, then go for it.  but if you feel that its not worth it, and the money would be better placed else where, then you should probably look for another place.  I say dont let the whole “day has to be perfect” mentality get to you, at the end of it all, its just a day and a place.  Your best wedding memories will be due to the people that are there to celebrate, not where you are.

    Post # 12
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    1252 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    My sister had a similar issue and negotiated heavily with the exclusive caterer to get a firm $$/pp price that she could swallow before she signed the venue contract.  The caterer agreed to her price only if she would be willing to have her wedding on certain date that I guess was less popular (I think it was 2 weeks after her preferred date, but still a Saturday evening).  So maybe you can try that route before writing it off completely.

    And I think if it really is a special venue and you think it may be something you’d regret passing on a few years down the road, you could probably stretch the budget considering that you have the money in savings, your financial situation could improve significantly once you graduate from school, you’ll like get some money as wedding gifts, and you may end up spending less on flowers, linens, chairs and other decor than you would at another venue. 

    Post # 13
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    1051 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    Have you tried contacting the caterer to see if you can choose a less expensive meal option? Surprisingly, many caterers are willing to negotiate if you call. Just make sure you do so before you book the venue and get everything in writing. 

    Post # 15
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    926 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I didn’t read all of the responses, but, as a working student, I would say that no wedding venue is worth sacrificing your studies and grades.  

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