Post # 1
So Fi and I run a night club. We hired a girl a year or so ago and from time to time Fiance has told me that she has told him that he is sexy. That shit doesn’t bother me. She is a liar and we ended up firing her. I’m a softy and she came back a few months ago and I hired her back because it just saddens me to think of someone without work and not being able to pay their bills.
Fiance fired her again because we had her working the front door a few nights and she was very rude to the customers. Her girlfriend still works there. She bought a house and had a house warming party and gave Fiance an invitation with his name only on it. When he gave it to me, I told him it was not intended for me because if it was my name would’ve been on there too since she knew we lived together from the first time she worked there and when she came back she knew we were engaged. I didn’t care about her house warming because even if she had invited me I still wouldn’t have gone but I would’ve gotten her a present from the club but she got nothing.
I bartend from time to time on busy nights and I’ve worked in the club scene for over 8 years so I know a lot of the patrons and even when I am not bartending people want me to make their drinks.
There is a health inspection coming up and some of the employees were up there cleaning I don’t know how it came up but this HEAUX told me Fiance and that one of the other bartenders told her that I serve this regular customer all the time and that me and the customer are having sex.
I jumped out of bed drove my crazy ass up there but Fiance at the time wouldn’t tell me who said it and he left before I got there so that I didn’t cause a scene with him up there. When I got there only 2 bartenders were there and I was like if you guys bold enough to say it behind my back then say that shit to my face. No one said anything.
Who the hell goes to their boss and tells them that they heard that their Fiance is screwing another man 139 days before his wedding. No proof, just hearsay.
Then another one chimed in that she heard that I laugh at him when his sugar gets low and he is shaking because he is a diabetic. I’m always on Fiance about taking his shots and making sure he eats when he suppose to and I get on to the bartenders for giving him beers.
I usually ignore people because I have a very bad temper but to me what she was doing was trying to put doubts in his mind about marrying me.
My fellow Bees, please help keep me out of jail.
Post # 3
Ohhh lord. No she didnt! It would be hard, but I would talk to Fiance about whether or not he even believed it. Then I would make it WELL KNOWN that anyone spreading salicious SHIT like that will be let go.
Post # 4
Yikes! Stay out of jail! She sounds excruciatingly toxic!
Post # 5
@Mashiara: He said he didn’t believe her but I think he was just saying that to calm me down because I don’t even remember driving up there. I remembered jumping out of bed and getting in my car but the ride up there is a blur to me. I told him if it was gossip amongst the bartenders then I wouldn’t have cared, but for her to cross the line and tell him that like she is looking out for him is the reason I need to put my foot in her ass!
Now he is thinking all his employees are laughing at him because they think I am sleeping with a customer behind his back.
Post # 6
I am still so flipping pissed!!!!
Post # 7
Oh, god, I don’t blame you one bit for being pissed. This girl needs to be let go ASAP, no ifs ands or buts. At this point, if she can’t pay her bills, it’s her own fault, not yours. You’ve given this girl TWO chances and she’s still trying to make things tense between you and your Fiance. Nonono. I say fire her ass, and have a good talk with the other employees about what is and is not appropriate to bring up to the BOSS.
Post # 8
Fire her. You’re too nice.
Post # 9
@StefLovesJamie: She was fired I think she went there yesterday to ask for her job back and since they were cleaning she started cleaning too. Fiance keeps telling me to calm down and to remember I’m a manager but to me going to him with some hearsay crossed the line. I thought after I slept for a while I would calm down a little but I think I’m even more pissed now than I was last night.
I told him I don’t want her any where in the building. Who the hell does something like that.
Post # 11
@mrsjjohnson2b: Honestly, whether your Fiance trusts you or not would be my main concern as of now. She’s an idiot, but did what she say really get to your FI? Surely, if he’s owner of a night club, he understands that some girls/workers will try to get close to the boss, may even try to break up his and his SO’s relationship (which it seems is what she was getting at.) Just ignore her if she’s been fired, and if she continues to cause problems, get a restraining order and restrict her from the club.
Post # 12
@mrsjjohnson2b: i can understand how frustrated and pissed off you would be. i hate it if someone says something untrue about anyone. just remember, you are a manager there and have to maintain your composure. other employees will see your reaction and you do not want to lose any respect from your current employees. i would have sat her down in my office and had a serious and professional talk about what she is saying, why she is saying this and what she thought she can gain from this rumour.
she definitely crossed the line and i would have fired her. just make sure she can’t come back legally for wrongful dismissal.
Post # 13
@mypinkshoes: I had a long nap and mentally I’m much better. He didn’t rehire her so she still no longer works there and I told him she is not allowed inside the club just yet. I am usually the voice of reason, so me driving up there in my pj’s and jumping out my car without shoes was out of character for me. We’ve had a discussion with employees before about our relationship being off limits and I get that these girls are younger and are thinking club owner has money and all good stuff but she just went above and beyond.
@StefLovesJamie: My Fiance said he didn’t believe her and that he told her that she didn’t need to come to him with that kind of stuff ever again but I think he was just really shock that I went off the way I did so I think he just left it alone. They know I don’t do the gossip thing and when I hear them talking about another employees I always tell them once they are in the building, it will not be tolerated.
All employees just got taken off the guest list.
Post # 14
I can only give advice on things that I have seen myself on how things are run. My father has an office and my mother is his office administrator. They are the bosses, together. I have seen staff give my mother less respect than she deserves, because she is just the wife (she doesnt really hold the title of OA, but does run the place). Those people are fired. Period. They do not respect the boss’s wife, which means no respect for him.
It doesnt matter if people are younger or whatever. He is their boss, so obviously he is numero uno. But you are his Fiance, his future wife, YOU are his number two. Regardless of anything else.
Maybe talk with your Fiance about having the employees show respect to both of you, you are paying their bills. He needs to back you up and show them you are his number one!