Post # 1
She doesnt want to pay for hair/makeup which is completely fine, I don’t mind them doing their own hair/makeup. However, one bridesmaid showed me the hair style she’s looking to do and it’s cornrow braids…..not even kidding. You know the hair you get done when you’re coming back from Cuba and you want some braids up the side of your temple but don’t want to braid your whole hair?
Yep, that hairstyle. Ok….what the eff? It’s a wedding, very formal! I’m confused and I’m not sure how to tel her she’s going to look stupid/really weird compared to the other girls? She’s also the girl who doesn’t want to do her makeup, also fine….but her foundation is 2 shades lighter than her skin/neck and I don’t want to be a jerk and say…you kinda look like a china doll with bright pink cheeks…..but that’s how she looks.
At my final fitting yesterday she spoke to another bridesmaid and somehow decided on necklaces for them when I purchased 50 dollar necklaces for everyone! And she’s adamant on using the one she wants which is BLUE and the dresses are light lavender.
1. She didn’t show me the hairstyle to ask my opinion, she was showing me to say yeah this is what I’m doing.
2. As for the makeup, she doesn’t realize that when she does her make up it doesn’t look good. I even offered to pay for her hair and makeup, and she said she felt better doing it herself…..
Advice? I don’t even know. ***pulling hair out***
ETA: My wedding is 12 days away tooo!
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Post # 2
I think you need to be blunt and talk to her once more that you would rather she have a different hairstyle. I’d let the makeup thing go, honestly — I don’t know why, but it’s like, making a big deal of that will have more implications for how you’re describing her day to day choices, if that makes sense?
And insist on the necklaces you bought. You can explain you chose the dresses and the necklaces and that everyone is wearing them and there’s no alternative.
Be nice, but stand your ground. Hopefully she won’t care–but in the end, her hair and makeup—are such personal choices, I wouldn’t insist someone do something else but it’s certainly worth being direct about how you feel about the hair.
Post # 3
oh my goodness! Im no where close to that phase in my wedding planning but im curious to see what other bee’s suggest. Maybe be firm and to the point with her. Its your day!!! Explain that you want a unified look and that includes hair make-up and accessories. Its unfair to you to make it about herself. Maybe she is self conscience about being out without make up on? Does she have bad skin? that might explain the hesitation. Keep us posted on what happens!
Post # 4
- Wedding: June 2017 - Country Cottage and Gardens
This makes my glad that I only have my sister as a bridesmaid. But i would just say that you’re going for a cohesive look (this s even easier if the dresses match) and that this would be better achieved if everyone is wearing the same type of makeup and with a similar style to their hair. Even if the styles are different in the specifics, I’m assuming there’s somewhat of a cohesive look to all of them. As far as the necklaces, I would just stress that you’re really sticking to a budget and that the planning has super expensive and you already bought necklaces for everyone.
Post # 5
Is that hairstyle something that culturally appropriate for her hair and she has done before/is comfortable with, or are we talking a Monica Gellar in Barbados situation?
Post # 7
😂😂😂😂. Why do I remember that episode?
Post # 8
It’s a treat for the eyes and the ears!!!!!!
Post # 9
No, it’s not LOL. She’s trying to copy the MMA fighter Rhonda Roussey? (i dunno how to spell her name) and it looks horrendous.
Post # 10
I would let her look like crap honestly.
Post # 11
I think the hair is debatable, consider serendipity
Makeup is her own perogative, *you* may not think it looks good, but if it makes her feel good about herself and its within her capabilities then you have to go with it.
I would have them wear the necklaces, no questions asked. Have another Bridesmaid or Best Man be responsible for getting her to wear it.
Post # 12
If they aren’t struggle braids her hair may actually look quite nice.
Post # 13
+1, me too.
You basically have three options here:
1) you can let her look crappy and be a good friend (since no pics, I’m just going with your assessment that she will in fact look crappy).
2) you can be honest with her and tell her she looks bad. This may achieve a certain look for your wedding but will most likely sour your friendship.
3) you can pay for hair & makeup for all of your girls so that you aren’t singling her out. Because singliner her out is really just option #2.
I’d probably go with option #1. These are the moment that you have to decide if you will be a bridezilla or not. Caring more about the way things look rather than the way people feel is the hallmark of a bridezilla. Tread carefully.
Post # 14
This is what she wants to do leekissesme:
this is what my bridesmaids are doing.
Post # 15
You chose this woman because you love her, right? And you knew what she looked like prior to asking her to stand up with you?
Let her do her makeup the way she prefers. Let her do her hair how she prefers. It was nice of you to offer to pay for hair and makeup, but she’s declined.
You have 12 days. Sit back and enjoy the last days of your engagement and get excited for the wedding. This is a nonissue.