- 5 years ago
My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost three years and live together. When we just got together, we were in a long distance relationship, but he always insisted to talk via Skype EVERY day. He also whatsapped me a lot. It was like this for the first year, even though the long distance ended after just a few months. Even when we already lived together, he always wanted to Skype when him or I were away for business (or with friends or family).
Well, in the last months, I feel like it has stopped, completely. He went on a business trip two weeks ago, just for two full days, but he didn’t skype me, even though I told him it would be nice to skype. When he came back, I told him that to me, it is really important to skype or talk on the phone at least once in two days, even if it’s just ten minutes or so.
Last Sunday, I left for a business trip and to visit my family, so we will be apart for a total of almost three weeks, which is the most we’ve ever been apart. We have whatsapped every day since I left, but haven’t skyped, not even once. It’s been 4 days since I’m gone, and Tuesday I told him I’d love to skype Wednesday night, he said yes sure. Wednesday night came, and we were texting, he didn’t even mention that we were planning to Skype. I asked him if he wants to Skype in half an hour. He said he’s really busy (note: He was NOT at work) but we can skype when he’s in the car, I said okay, he said let me know when you’re ready. Just twenty minutes later, I whatsapped him to tell him I’m ready to Skype. He didn’t answer. I called him, twice. He didn’t pick up. I messaged him to say that I called him, and then waited an hour. No answer from him. Then I just went to bed. The next morning he had whatsapped me, saying that his phone died and that he was on the way to take a swim. Nothing else. No sorry, no ‘Let’s skype today then’. Today we whatsapped a bit as well and I hoped he would ask my to skype (since he ditched me last night even though before he said we will skype), but of course he didn’t. He wasn’t even at work, according to him he just slept, went for another swim, went to the bank and had lunch. He didn’t have to work til the late afternoon, so it would have been so easy to skype.
This is making me sad. For the first time of our relationship, he always wanted to skype, and he sent me cute stuff on Whatsapp. Now he doesn’t seem like he wants to skype at all, I feel like he doesn’t miss me at all. We just whatsapp and even on WhatsApp he never tells me something nice, we just talk like two normal people, like what we did today etc. Once he sent me ‘a kiss’, that’s it. Monday when I whatsapped him I wrote him that I love him very much (and a few other things), he only answered ‘Ok so talk to you tomorrow’ and ‘have a good trip to xxx’. Since I’m gone, he hasn’t even texted me once ‘I love you’ or ‘I miss you’, plus the Skype thing.
Am I overreacting, overinterpreting? I feel sad about it, especially since I have already told him a few times that to me it’s important to stay in touch via Skype or phone when we cannot see each other. I mean, it’s a long time this time. I also told him thistime and he said I’m exaggerating and he was just very busy. I think that’s not an excuse. What do you guys think about all this? Please tell me your opinion and what you’d do.
- This topic was modified 4 years, 10 months ago by pinkazalea.