(Closed) I'm gone and he doesn't even want to skype – I start doubting that he misses me

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I was going to say you can’t be in the honeymoon phase forever, but the fact that he can’t even say, “I love you too” is a red flag.

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

pinkazalea:  I think you need to have a chat with him upon your return just to see if everything’s okay.  It could be that he was really busy, and his phone died.  Or maybe since you two live together he knows he’ll see you soon anyway?

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I think you may be over analzying things here.  I am currently ending my own three week stint away from Darling Husband.  We haven’t skyped once, or talked on the phone. We haven’t even texted every day.  I know he misses me and vice versa, we just don’t feel the need to be in constant contact.  He may just not feel the same as you do about the contact regime

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Yeah – it’s not you guys’ “norm”… so if you’re noticing it then it should be addressed.  Good luck!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

Ehh. You’ve been together 3 years, it might be nothing. If you’re concerend, just talk to him in person about it when you get back.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California

On one hand, I really don’t think you guys need to be in constant contact or even Skype, but he could easily reply with an ‘I love you too’ or something that takes two seconds out of his “busy” life.

It sounds like you are the same person who found out her bf reactivated his FB account & so maybe you’re just being extra paranoid due to that?

Either way, I would gently bring it up, but overall try not to worry until you get back. Focus on your work & family 🙂

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

Is this the guy who wanted to go see his Mom on Mother’s Day?

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

My Fiance goes away all the time for work. Sometimes he asks me to skype and I don’t want to it’s not because I don’t miss him/don’t love him. I think you are overthinking this.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

pinkazalea:  I think it depends on what is normal for the two of you and how you feel about it. My husband has been on a business trip this week and we’ve talked on the phone at least once a day, sometimes more than that. We haven’t skyped, but we aren’t really skypers. We aren’t really phone talkers either, except for when we’re apart like this (we really prefer to text for most things). We are semi-constant communication people though and that’s what we both are comfortable with. We’ve been married three years, together for five, so I think we’re out of the honeymoon stage (though who knows?). 

I don’t think it’s necessarily worrisome, phones die, people go for swims, but if it’s making you said I’d just talk to him about it and let him know how you feel. Hope you work it out soon!

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - Catal Restaurant

OP, are you the same one who was worried because he re-activated his facebook account?

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I agree with other PPs. This story sounds a lot like some other ones that have been posted recently. Perhaps this is just coincidence, but if it’s not, OP, leave this guy. Creating new accounts to get validation from Internet strangers won’t fix anything in your relationship. I apologize sincerely if this is not the same poster and my suspicions are wrong. 

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I’m pretty sure fireice, pinkazalea, maribellx, and emeraldine are all the same person.

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

Can a mod check the ip addresses? 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I’d definitely talk to him bc what you described sounds to me like there’s someone else on scene now AND/OR his interest has decreased significantly. 

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