- 7 years ago
- Wedding: November 2013
So we had quite a frank discussion the other night… I didn’t mean to bring up getting engaged but we had just been out to dinner with his family and his mum had been telling me I just need to drag him to the jewellery shop and force him along.
I was joking with him and telling him how I would never do that because I firmly believe he has to be 100% on board with all this and he was quite relieved. But it led to a larger chat about what we feel marriage is all about and how we want our lives to go.
Ultimately, he is quite a practical guy. He feels like he is married to me now (we own property together) and he is so comitted to me. He wants to marry me and if there was a way to just be married without all the stress of the wedding, he would be all on board.
I dont actually care about the wedding itself. For me its the marriage. But we both have families that are big on the wedding and want to celebrate.
So… I think I may be here a while. He understands more where I am coming from in terms of my need to plan and that I want to be married by mid 2013. He actually felt really bad when he realised just how heavily it was all weighing on my mind. He thought we were both on the same page in regards to it happening when it happens… but he now has some thinking to do!
I would never ever leave him and actually said if marriage isnt for you -thats fine, just let me know. But he wants to get married, and he wants to marry me. He just needs to do something about it now.