(Closed) I’m gonna get burned at the stake for this but

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

eh, i understand the frustration, but sounds like it has the potential to turn into a huge mess the day of your wedding.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@Mrs.Vowrenewal: so you’re basically not following up on RSVPs if someone doesn’t respond? you’re brave! I wouldn’t know what to do if someone showed up that didn’t RSVP…

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I dont think that you necessarily have to take on the responsibility of hunting down RSVPs, but at least have someone do it for you at the very least… it’ll save you so much headache and heartbreak on your wedding day, I’m sure!

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Wow you are brave! This seems like a scary notion, especially when close friends and family are involved 😐 All the power to ya if you pull it off without strife!

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

When you say burned at the stake, do you mean because of all the stress and commotion it will cause at your wedding? Who is the person that will have to handle that then? One of your parents? A wedding coordinator? Perhaps they would be willing to step up and spend a few hours contacting people now to avoid the alternative which involves having to find seats for these people at the last minute or asking them to leave, having the venue charge extra for meals or not having enough, and lots of anger.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@M.Ruder: i think that’s what I meant to say 😉

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@Mrs.Vowrenewal: While I get where you’re coming from, I see a 3 ring circus wedding in your future if you don’t at least attempt to straighten out RSVPs in advance.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

O wow, I have about 18 guests attending my out of state wedding that did not rsvp.  I found out by calling the hotel to see if they had booked rooms for that weekend and sure enough there was about 8 or 9 couples that had booked and paid for reservations to attend my wedding and did not rsvp.   That would’ve been terrible if I wouldn’t have found out through the hotel, cause I would not have had a seat for them.

Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper

To each is own.  Keep in mind, there is also the USPS factor and perhaps an RSVP getting lost in the mail.

I will add:  while chasing down RSVP’s was a pain, it’s not the end of the world and – let’s face it – haven’t we all had one RSVP goof in our life??   That said: most of the one’s I chased were a ‘no’.  Some where obviously coming (family, etc) and I had to get menu choices.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I see the lure in doing this, but it only makes your own life harder the day of the wedding when you have waaaaay more people than you planned for and not enough food and a higher charge to pay the venue for the extra people not included in your original headcount. 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@Mrs.Vowrenewal:  I jsut noticed you said food won’t be a problem since you’re having a buffet….do you already have a caterer?  Have you spoken with them about how they price the buffet?  We are having a buffet but still had to pay per person for food.  So if someone extra comes, yes there might be extra food since it’s a buffet but I would still be responsible for paying for that person later.  Just be careful   🙂

Post # 16
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Honey bee

So if someone shows up the day of and they never rsvped what will you do? Tell them to leave?

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