- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
I’m just really frustrated, and stressed out, and ready for this whole wedding business to be over.
I’m excited to be married to my fiance. He’s the greatest guy on the face of the planet and thank god for him, because I am more stressed out with each passing day. He’s been helping me keep my head on straight.
So now, my little rant, because every bride-to-be needs one.
Everything got crazy when my dad decided he’s not coming to the wedding, and no longer paying for the big stuff. That was a nice big unwelcome surprise that we received about 4 weeks ago (2 weeks before the venue was due). He also wrote off the entire family and isn’t speaking to any of us anymore, so that’s fun. It took a week of stressing and crying (a LOT) before we were able to figure things out and come to a solution for coming up with all that money or cancelling the wedding. The wedding is still on. Since then we’ve been really tight on money (even more than before), which has been a huge cause of headache as all the last minute things are coming up now.
My brothers (19 and 22) haven’t been involved in the planning process because I never see them, and can NEVER get ahold of them. THis is fine by me as I didn’t really need their input (they don’t know the first thing about weddings) but now that I need information from them, it’s been very frustrating. It took me a month to finally find out if they owned anything remotely close to a suit (which of course, they don’t). I have spent the last 4 weeks trying to get ahold of the 22 yr old by any means I can (calling/texting/asking my mom to have him call me since they live together/asking his girlfriend to call me) JUST to double check what he has and whether or not he can pay for a rental. Given that one brother (19) doesn’t have a job, and the 22 yr old does but also helps support his Girlfriend and their 1 yr old, and my mom is broke as a joke, it falls on my Fiance and I to pay for their suits. And my nephew’s (which we decided we don’t care about)…and my mom’s dress… and her alterations. Granted, altogether it’s only like $350, but for us, that’s a lot when we weren’t counting on having to spend it originally.
It didn’t help that one of our cars got towed recently (from our own apartment complex) and it cost $300 to get it out.
Before all this craziness, about the same time my dad did his little 180, we found out FI’s grandmother was in the hospital for pneumonia, and his dad was also in the hospital after a bender. FI’s grandmother passed away 2 weeks ago, which has been really really rough for him. We went to the viewing and are still awaiting details for a wake… but it’s really the last thing he needed right now. It was his last grandparent, and she helped us with money for the deposit on our venue. It breaks my heart that she won’t be able to see her only grandchild be married. FI’s dad is now in an alcohol rehab facility. (We didn’t even know he was an alcoholic until that trip into the hospital.) So that’s been really rough on both of us.
Everything else is kind of just generally frustrating. FI’s fake sister (she swears they’re related even though they have different parents and she moved into his mom’s house years after he moved out) gave us hell during that whole time about not letting her jerk of a boyfriend come to the wedding. (He broke up with her over text a month before and threatened to get a restraining order… so no, we didn’t want him there). We were getting texts from her every day, FB posts on our walls, so on and so forth. Youngest brother is peeved he can’t bring his new girlfriend from his 1 week old relationship and claims that he’ll wedding crash. It’d be one thing if we didn’t care who is going to be there but considering we’re paying for everyone AND we know every single person that will be there, I won’t be making an exception for this new chick that he’ll break up with in 3 weeks.
Oh and both brothers are all of a sudden pissed that they’re not in the wedding party, when I’m sure a couple weeks ago they didn’t even think about it. I’m sure my asking about suits prompted their sudden realization that hey, our sister’s getting married, and we’ve known about it since November of last year, but WAIT, what about US?? How will her guests know that WE are the important ones here, not them? — Like, they refuse to be ushers because they think it makes them look unimportant. I am planning on dancing with them (instead of my dad) but they don’t care about that – they care about whether or not they’re seen during the ceremony.
And, I’m a crazy person and decided to do a TON of DIY stuff and so have been doing things with the Fiance every day now to make sure it all gets done on time.
I’m sure there’s more but my head is kinda swimming at the moment. Maybe it doesn’t sound as bad/frustrating as it is… but holy moly ladies, I’m ready to call it quits. I would love some words of encouragement/advice, because my brain feels like it’s about to explode.