(Closed) I'm gonna kill her… (I am sorry, this is a vent but I need to get it out)

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
1828 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I am very confused. What is the problem with the bustles, exactly? You and your sister are both getting married?

I’m not meaning to be too harsh, but all I got out of your entire paragraph was that YOU (you, you, you) are being so very inconvenienced to be part of your sister’s wedding and bridal experience. If I were you, I’d do you both a favor and bow out, regardless of what your mother says otherwise.

Post # 4
351 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I am confused also… I didn’t really follow what was happening but I hope that it works itself out and you can reduce your stress.

Post # 5
581 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I’m a bit confused as well as to what is going on like the pp’s, but I have a few suggestions for what I think is going on:

There are great make up brands to cover scars. They sell them at many department store make up counters.  Maybe you can convince her to pay for it, though I don’t think she did it intentionally to make you uncomfortable.

Ask her to consider letting the BM’s pick their own shoes.  then you can wear heels you are already comfortable with.

Bring your phone or camera and record how to do your bustle.  or can your mom come instead?

I’m sorry you didn’t get to help plan the shower.  Did you express your desire to do so?  Maybe she listed you because she wants you to act as host day of the shower or help with RSVP’s.

Bow out of the wedding.  Tell her you cannot handle the stress of moving and being in her wedding.


Post # 10
1139 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Breathe lol! Wedding planning can be soo stressful. I’ll bet your mom is going crazy. You need a spa day or maybe a day where you don’t do anything wedding related. It sounds like your in overload and your sister too!

Post # 11
3770 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

I can assure nobody will notice that scar.

Your sister picked the dress she wanted. Your sister has a shower being thrown by somebody else after you have repeatedly told her how busy you are with your house, move,and wedding planning, and there is stil plenty of time to talk with the MOH to ask how you can help. Set a time to do the shoes with her and get them picked out so you have enough time to do what you need to do with them.

If you aren’t able to put a side your feelings of being inconvenieced then stepdown out of the wedding, these little things are not worth losing sleep over.

Post # 13
494 posts
Helper bee

First…go get a glass of wine and relax a bit. It sounds like there’s a few stressful things happening in your life with both weddings and the move/house. The only thing I am confused about is the “back up bridesmaid” thing. Are you filling in for someone who bailed? Your sister sounds like high maintenance and that can be draining. I don’t have any advice for you as far as how to deal with her, but put yourself first! You can’t bail on your move or anything else like that and if your sister doesn’t understand then she can just not understand. As for the shower, that sucks….did you ask her about it? Where is it and who is paying for it if you didn’t plan it?


Post # 16
2582 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Not going to touch most of this post…  but scars are a deeply personal issue of body image and self consciousness – and if anyone told me they were sensitive about a scar – no matter how small/insignificant it might seem to ME, I would find a way to work around it.



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