- 8 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
I got dragged into my sisters wedding (after being BEGGED to be a ‘back up bridesmaid’) and agreed to do it because A, my mom convinced me and B, I thought helping to plan my sister’s bridal shower would be fun! Ever since I said yes it has been a COMPLETE nightmare! The one request I made for the bridesmaids dress was that it be long enough to cover a scar on my knee that I am VERY self concious about (any time, let alone infront of 150+ people, half of which I don’t know), the dresses are SHORT, like 3″ above the knee short, I was over the pink thing, until I tried the dress on, now I am going to be miserable all day (getting over it, but still not happy). THAN I received an invitation in the mail to my sister’s bridal shower, WITH MY NAME ON IT AS A HOST! I in no way, shape or form helped to plan this thing, I THINK my FH and I have something going on that weekend, AND the ONE thing I was looking forward to helping with for the wedding, I didn’t have any involvement in AT ALL! My sister STILL has not picked shoes, and the wedding is in Early August! I have trouble walking in heels because of a 1″ deficency between my right leg and my left leg, I need to train myself to walk in new shoes. (Let alone a stiletto sandal, in a church, in a short dress, that if I happen to trip and fall on my face, the ENTIRE church will get a show). We got our dresses altered together, which without my knowledge, she expected this to be ‘bonding time’ for us NEWS TO ME THERE SISTER! Because I have a ballroom bustle on my dress there is no ‘color coding’ involved like her french bustle and the seamstress told me to bring someone who can learn to bustle my dress, my Maid/Matron of Honor is out of town that weekend (July 7) so I asked my GAY FRIEND to come with so he could learn so he can teach my Maid/Matron of Honor how to do it when it comes time. SHE COMPLETELY FLIPPED OUT! My friend will NOT be at her wedding, and could honesly care less about her or her dress! She expects the seamstress who is VERY busy and continuously does unique bustles to remember how to do my bustle for almost an entire year so when I get my dress steamed my Maid/Matron of Honor can learn! UMM NO! This is when she threw the ‘bonding time’ thing at me and said “I figured we’d go shoe shopping that day”.. ALSO not going to happen, my FH and I are moving into our new home THAT WEEK, and THAT SATURDAY when we get our dresses we are MOVING most of our stuff that day, and she expects me to put that behind me and blow off my FH and everyone who is helping us.. She said “just put me on the back burner for my wedding stuff”, which I am completely NOT doing! She knew my house was going to be done in July, I warned her of that BEFORE she planned an August wedding! I am at such a loss, I just want to throw the Bridesmaid or Best Man dress in her face and tell her I am not even coming to her wedding! I am in tears because I am overly stressed between her wedding, my wedding, my house, a sick FH, and a MULTITUDE of other things going on in my life right now! What on earth am I supposed to do, I feel bad that my friend happens to be MALE and that he will be the only other person besides her Maid/Matron of Honor to see her in her dress (again, he could care less and would willingly wait outside while she is in hers), but how the HELL is that my fault that she didn’t listen to what was being said to us last time we were there?? I am so aggrivated, sad and angry right now I’m afraid I am not going to get any sleep tonight. She has now told me that she is not going to come to the alterations appointment to help me get into my dress (which my friend doesn’t want to do, he’s not comfortable with half naked girls), and she doesn’t want my help with hers! I just don’t know, I am at a complete loss..
I am sorry for the huge run on paragraph, but it just flowed.. Please, any suggestions would be helpful (and before it is said, she doesn’t want to learn to bustle my dress because with all of her ‘wedding stress’ she’ll forget how to bustle my dress.. her words, not mine)!