(Closed) I'm Grieving Over Here…you wanna calm down????

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
9642 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Nona99:  ((HUGS))  Oh, my!  I just got back from the beach.  I am so, so very sorry for your loss and so sorry for all the cr*p you’re having to put up with.  Cry

Post # 4
942 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Nona99:  omg that’s terrible. I wouldve told her to stop until the entire family can sit down together and decide what’s happening to grandpa’s things…


funerals bring out the worst in people.

Post # 5
2401 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I hate relatives like that. Makes me so angry. I’m sorry for your loss Nona. ): I lost my grandpa a few years ago, before he died he gave me 3 guns. One of which was his late daughters gun. He always kept it because she was close to him. He was my best friend, father figure, and hero. When he gave me her gun he told me to always keep it and protect it. My lovely aunt, days after he died, went to my grandma and asked her for the gun. It was her sisters and she wanted it. My grandma told her nothing about it. I was so infuriated that she couldn’t wait a few till after he had passed. She just wanted to sell it for money. ):

Post # 6
1041 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Nona99:  Cry I am so sorry.  You should NOT be having to fight off the vultures while you’re grieving.

Post # 7
1566 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Wow Nona {{HUG}} I’m sorry it’s going that way… That’s just disrespectful… I hope he shows himself to you somehow to help you

Post # 8
2902 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Oh no I’m sorry about your grandpa honey. What a yucky thing to have to go through so soon after. Hugs to you 

Post # 9
191 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I’m really sorry for your loss, and for the crap that families do…hang in there,

Post # 10
407 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Vultures is right!  I’m so sorry to hear about your grandpa.  Don’t let those vultures get to you.  And don’t forget to take really good care of yourself, especially in this hectic and emotional time.

Post # 11
924 posts
Busy bee

I’m so sorry! this is the last thing you need while you are greiving. I hope your shitty relatives come to their senses. 

Post # 12
663 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

So gross! I am sorry for your loss!!!

Post # 13
527 posts
Busy bee

So sorry for your loss, and having to contend with greedy, grubby vultures. It is so sad that your family cannot even wait for the flowers to wilt before they go gold digging. 

Post # 14
5065 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

@Nona99:  I’m so very sorry for your loss. It’s horrible a similar thing happened to me. My family went through all my late Grandmother’s jewelery. My aunt even took the jewellery book and all her important jewellery, then 3 months later my cousin pawned all the jewellery to make extra cash 🙁 ick families! So sorry you are going through this – big hugs. 

Post # 15
2854 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@Nona99:  ugh. so sorry you have to deal with that! When my grampie died (my grammie died a few years earlier), my two crazy aunts went to the house, packed everything in trucks and peaced out. My dad lost out on getting to keep things from his childhood. It was a hot mess. Bitches be CRAY!

Post # 16
2440 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Nona99:  oh my gosh I am so so sorry! While it wasn’t so horrible as what you are dscribing, my family went thorugh my grandmother’s beloongings the evening after her memorial service to diccy things up. I was completely disgusted. It wasn’t like a fenzy for STUFF or anything, but I just wasn’t in the right mindset for it (I actually had to go outside and cry on the curb) I didn’t know what I would find important as a momento, or what I would wish I had thought of at the time. All I knew was the my grandma (who I lived with as a child with my family) was gone, and people were divvying up her stuff. It was awful. 🙁 And this was from a very close family who had litterally spent the last 9 months with her NONSTOP caring for her and making her arrangement son her behalf while she was in hospice. Everyone there (with the exception of my aunt’s ass hole husband) was deeply affected by the loss and genuinely loved my grandma during her life. That part of time when things get involved is just icky.


So sorry you’re going through this. Take a moment and look to see if there is anything that can serve as a momento, and then just let it all go. Don’t worry about the house, or the stuff. Don’t worry about the selfish relatives or the scramble. Just go home to your husband and your pets and give yourself time to breathe.


Absolutely all the best.



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