(Closed) I’m happy for them, but I’m bummed for me :-/

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
5242 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

I know how you feel. Because you are super excited about your wedding you want everyone else to be too but that is not always the case. Everyone has there own lives to think about. The best thing to do would be to share your excitement with your Future Mother-In-Law because she seems just as excited as you are πŸ™‚

Post # 4
2702 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@PinkFlemingo:  This happened with me, too. my brother in law had a baby about 6 months before the wedding so all of the attention was on them. Literally, that damn baby was all everyone could talk about. But, about a month before the wedding everyone seemed to care and WANT to get involved. Hopefully once the day comes closer, their initial response is the same as when you first got engaged

Post # 6
45 posts
  • Wedding: April 2013

I completely understand.  My Future Sister-In-Law found out she was pregnant a few weeks after we got engaged.  It is all my Future Mother-In-Law is talking about…when we went bridesmaid dress shopping (which we had to do early before she starts showing) we somehow ended up in Pottery Barn Kids and baby stores! I’m so excited to be an Aunt but really!? My wedding is almost a year away so I can only imagine it will get worse lol.

Post # 8
2247 posts
Buzzing bee

@PinkFlemingo:  FI’s cousin is like an extra daughter to the Future In-Laws, for whatever reason they’re close to her.  So, everything that goes on in her life gets as much attention as anything that goes on in Fiance or his siblings’ lives.  FCIL and her DH announced early February that they were going to start TTC immediately.  Now, I am kinda sitting around waiting for her pregnancy announcement to blow my wedding out of the water.  I know how petty and ridic that sounds.  But, she’s not the type of person who will be interested in sharing the “spotlight” and I’m not the type of person to demand mine.  She is gonna be hogging everyone’s attention with all baby talk, all of the time, before the EPT stick even dries.  Hell, she’s already started and she’s NOT EVEN PREGNANT YET!  Everytime they come over for family dinners, we spend the entire time talking baby names, ovulation patterns, diaper brands, etc. and there’s no baby yet.  Every conversation that comes up about my wedding ends up leading to a conversation about FCIL’s non-existent pregnancy.

So, your comment about the alcohol made me chuckle because I am already experiencing this with FCIL.  Future Mother-In-Law asked me (in FCIL’s presence) how many bottles of wine I think we should bring down for our beach stay after the wedding.  FCIL busts into the conversation with, “Well, I won’t be drinking at the beach.”  Umm, okay, that’s fine but no one was asking you?  Later on, Future Mother-In-Law asked me when I planned to start going to the tanning bed and before I could answer her, FCIL said, “I guess I won’t be tanning this year!”

I’ve just been taking it all in stride.  My family is really excited for this wedding, so if Future Mother-In-Law and Future Father-In-Law want to put more focus into FCIL when she gets pregnant then I’ll just share my excitement with my side of the family πŸ™‚

Post # 9
208 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

im having the same problem, i feel like our wedding is put in the back burner all the time. His mother is prego, my cousin is having a second wedding a month before mine. and other people / family members arent really taking us serisouly becuase of our age. yes we are young, but were in love, theres no baby involved theres no pressure from enraged marriage. its simply just love, and i feel our love is stronger than most couples ive seen. Im happy with my desicion and im glad im doing this. no one can change my mind even when almost someone in either his family or mine think we are stupid for making a this choice in life.

no matter what, i know Gods by our side. and he has a big future for us

Post # 10
1810 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I understand where you’re coming from….buts thats what the Bee is for! I know it isn’t the same, but I find myself gushing with other brides about their plans and then my family doesn’t get so much of it!

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