(Closed) I'm having a mild panic attack! It is too soon!

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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853 posts
Busy bee

I went back to our venue THREE times, with the intent of putting down a deposit, and I was convinced that after the second time of speaking with the lady and leaving, she would tell me they no longer wanted our business! lol. Making the big decisions and nailing down some of the most important details is stressful, and it definitely brings up a lot of ‘what ifs?’ But if we didn’t get the ball rolling, there would be no wedding! You gotta start somewhere, so be happy with your choices, look forward, and try to be excited rather than anxious. You’ll start to realize further into your planning process that your day is going to beautiful and great no matter what! Trust me, I second guessed almost all of our major decisions, and I didn’t start to calm down and enjoy until it came to the details. Congrats on getting started!! πŸ˜€

Post # 4
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3697 posts
Sugar bee

I read a book a couple of years ago called The Paradox of Choice that talks about this phenomenon: regret about the possibility of missing out on other options, once you commit to something. (Dress regret, anyone?) The author didn’t talk about wedding-related stuff specifically, but his theory is totally applicable to wedding planning.

The key to not getting overwhelmed by dress regret/venue regret/what have you is to focus on what you’re choosing and not what you’re opting out of. Remind yourself that you’re choosing the best option for you and that you don’t need to worry about missing out on some hypothetical better option, because the option you choose fits your needs and will make you happy. (Yes, it’s easier said than done … but it’s helpful!)

Your venue will be great. And, now that you’ve locked it in, you should congratulate yourself on getting one of the major wedding-planning hurdles out of the way! Seriously, having a venue is SO much better than not having a venue.

Post # 5
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942 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@KCKnd2:  +1 ! I haven’t read the book but I totally agree with this. I did a bit of second guessing, a lot closer to the date too and even went so far as looking at other options. Then I remebered why I chose it in the first place and was happy again πŸ™‚

As far as money goes, you can make it work with clever budgeting and being organised, which by the sounds of things having started planning already for 2013 you must be an organised person. even with a tiny budget a wedding can be perfect! It will be fine and try focus on why you chose that venue and not the others. Because you love it !

Post # 7
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959 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@MrsFutureG: It will all be fine! Youa re choosing them because you like their work and if they are within your budget then go for it. If sticking within your budget becomes a major concern then be firn and stick with it. You will be amazed how many good vendors you will find who can work with your budget. It just requires lots and lots of research. I did a lot of before booking our vendors and thankfully, it hasn’t failed us yet πŸ™‚

GL!

Post # 8
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1239 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I do that too everytime I make a payment, I have a bit of a meltdown and say to Fiance, maybe we shuldnt get married lol just elope, but its too late now πŸ™‚

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee

Sit, relax, breathe. It will all be ok!!

Post # 10
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1239 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

but mostly I am happy with our descision.

Post # 11
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2254 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@traveller:  Ahhh! I tried convincing my Fiance a couple of days ago to just elope. I was just so sick and tired of hearing people’s demands for my wedding plus the overall wedding budget was freaking me out. My Fiance just turned and calmly said to me, “We’re $10,000 in at this point, there is no eloping.” =(

Post # 12
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1239 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@Olive12:  lol, I know.  I am having a Destination Wedding but it is still getting more complex and more expensive.  So I am trying to simplify and cut costs where I can.  I am thinking smaller and only local flowers, local beer, no wine, ipod music, no wedding favours (but welcome drinks), no decorations except for same flowers from chapel at resturant, small cupcakes not cake, cheaper bridemaid dresses and jewellary, BYO alcohol for some events, friend to video, but I am not cutting costs on my dress, hair/make up and photographer or the location.

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