Thank you for the advice. I have another update. I have given him my evening cleaning job and he is doing that, bringing in about 800 a month. That doesnt come close to covering HIS minimum payments on bills, let alone anything else.
I landed a job making 72K a year. So right now, I am supporting the whole family. Me and him are not talking much these days-I have asked for counselling, he said he would go but hasnèt done anything to look into it.
He told me today he gets that I want him to get a job, and he has another interview tomorrow. He has had a few, but no luck in getting an offer.
He even applied to Home Depot and they turned him down. I wonder sometimes what he is saying in these interviews….
His contribution to housework is still ok, I threw out my back and still had to go to work and clean on the weekend, I still seem to carry the burden of financial stress.
Today I asked him again WHY he hasnt looked into bankruptcy, consumer proposal. I told him Ifeel there is no future for us to work towards, because he hasnèt been trying on his part to improce it. Right now I am staring down 6 long years of him paying back carelessly spent money, plus paying back his mom, plus paying back the money we owe in back-taxes.
My future feels dismal with him. Yes, we get along but we sure arenèt getting along these days. This is definitely the worse part of it. He says he understands I donèt trust him, yet he doesnèt attempt to make me comfortable.
Like last month, he paid his bills – with OUR money (mostly mine) and left me to figure out how to pay the rest with what he left.
I called him on it and he plays all innocent, claiming I am tryin to make him out to be a bad person, that he wasnèt trying to be malicious and oh, Ilike this one ÈI thought I told you I was going to do thatÈ.
I explained to him that even if he didnèt mean to do it the way it looks, he needs to build trust with me and not touch the money at all at this point because he cannot be trusted. Right now I am very concerned and thinking about separating our money completely as I he hasnèt really proven to be trustworthy at all–he got his CCs back and at Chirstmas bought me a gift on his credit card, but went over his limit, so in Janary when we are paying bills, we had to pay for the gift and the overage…which took 600 bucks out of OUR money that we had left.
He hasnèt proved anything to me, except that he needs a foot completely wedged up his you know what to do anything around the house, or in life.
I feel like I have been scammed, and I am wuickly falling ut of love with this man.
I want to go to counselling, and he agreed to go, but I want him to book the appointment. I need to see him make the effort.
I am not pulling this carriage alone.