(Closed) I’m having my “FI’s bachelor party is tomorrow” pity party. Cheer me up!

posted 6 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
3886 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Why does this bother you so much? And why do you let it bother you so much?

Your fiance is a full-grown man and is going to see a whole lot of boobs other than yours over the next however-many years of his life. Boobs are everywhere. They’re on broadcast TV in Europe even!  It is *impossible* for any woman to prevent her husband from ever seeing another woman’s boob, or shakin’ booty, for the rest of his life, short of surgically removing his eyes.

And unless he’s a total douche, the worst he’s gonna do is what most guys do in strip clubs— pay too much for drinks, act like total idiots, be scared to talk to the girls (or look them in the eye… lots of shoe-gazing in a strip club), and just about have a stroke when one of his idiot friends buys him a lap dance. He’s not going to knock up a stripper, or find a girl there that he likes better than you, and if he does, well good riddance.  He may act like a complete idiot, but at least he’s YOUR idiot.  Chances are, he’s not going to come home as someone’s baby daddy and he’s not going to skip the coming-home part.

Which brings me back to… why does this bother you so much, and why do you let it?

Post # 4
4046 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Paintball sounds really fun. At least they aren’t starting with the strippers at 9am, right?

Post # 5
620 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

@whitandrior:  Don’t let those thoughts and doubts make you miserable. You can’t stop birds (thoughts) from flying over your head, but you can keep them from building a nest in your hair! Smile

You obviously trust him enough to be your future husband and the father of your kids (if you want children). So you must believe that he’s an honorable man. Trust also that no amount of pushing from his friends will make him do anything inappropriate or disrespectful to you, especially when he has decided to commit to you for life.

Post # 6
35 posts

Have you talked to him at all about how this makes you feel? I know bachelor party/stripper discussions on these boards always seem to get pretty divisive. The fact of the matter is, all women have different opinions about the topic and are entitled to feel however they want about it. If you are bothered by it and, as you said, stressed out about it, then I personally think it is something that you need to communicate with him. And in my opinion, if he respects you as much as he should, he would choose not to participate in such activities even if it’s what his friends want to do.

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