- 5 years ago
- Wedding: January 2017
So, I have a great relationship with an understanding and caring boyfriend of 5 1/2 years. We’re very compatible, and always enjoy each other’s company, and can work along side each other doing any mudane task and really just enjoy the time and experience we’re sharing. We moved in this past February after he said he was ready to take that step with me. We’re taking well to the change, and handle finances with no problems or arguments b/c we’re so alike when it comes to handling financial responsibilities. I don’t know if I thought the “next step” would just happen immediately and magically after we moved in together, but lately I can’t get thoughts out of my head of “where are we going?” and “why hasn’t he proposed?” It was a HUGE step for him to move in with me, he openly admits he’s afraid of change and commitment. We talk about our fears, hopes, what’s on our minds very openly, but bring up our “future” and he clams up. He’s not sure what he wants. I’ve expressed how I feel hurt when he states this, and he tried to comfort me, explaining he does love me, and he’s just uncertain of the future. He’s opening up to me little by little, which he’s not used to doing. He acknowledges he needs to do this in order for us to move forward. Why, if we have a good relationship, can’t I be happy with what we have? Why do I need to know where we’re heading SO BAD!?!?! How do you other waiting bees calm your anxiety and fears? How do you keep yourself calm and positive while waiting for him to open up more to you?