Post # 1
and just wanted to say this site is helpful. We haven’t talked about marriage…but it’s something I want and think is going to happen. The boards have been helpful to me.
Can I ask silly questions here? In the beginning, my SO seemed to be so commitment phobic he wouldn’t mention “marriage” or “wife” or anything such as that. Lately he’s been more verbal about these things. He seems to be really talking about commitments and fidelity and that type of thing. Even once said “is your mom going to ask me when we’re getting married.”
I feel like this is a “sign” – but heck, I’m an early bee buzzing around this hive.
I know he loves me, and I love him to pieces. Trying not to obsess or think about it all the time and I want a total surprise so it’s good to be able to anonymously talk about these things and hear different viewpoints.
P.S. Love Mr. Bees advice. I’m doing the “not mentioning it” plan for now.
Post # 3
Hi and welcome to the hive. I have no idea about the signs since he’s been talking about marriage since the 3rd month and I’m still waiting…..but patiently though.LOL
I hope your stay here is short and sweet! Jump into any and all threads!
Post # 4
i’m in the same boat as msmamabear since we’ve been talking marriage since our 2nd month together and 5+ years later we’re still waiting but even with that, i know that when the mister brings it up on his own, it’s definitely something that’s on the forefront of his mind at that time. so if he’s bringing it up on his own, he’s been thinking about it.
welcome to the hive and i do hope you’re wait is short and sweet as well!
Post # 5
My Boyfriend or Best Friend was like that for a long time too. He really was hesitant to talk about marriage related things, and for awhile it was really hard for me. But turns out he needed more time to “grow up” (his term haha) and get used to the idea. Now he looks at our friends’ wedding invites and talks about what he thinks we should do. 🙂
So, I think you’re doing the right thing in laying off wedding talk for awhile and just letting things progress. And I do think that your man’s willingness to talk more is a good sign!! 🙂
Post # 6
My Boyfriend or Best Friend was and still is like that, it’s funny because he uses a lot of euphemisms like “taking our relationship to the next level” instead of getting engaged, and thigs like that. I should mention he’s a very reserved person and not expressive a lot. During a while I didn’t have a clue about whether he was thinking of getting married soon or even ever! And then one day he said he wanted us to go ring shopping! That was in April and I’m still waiting, a bit impatiently to be honest LOL. On the other hand, some ex-BF or girlfriend’s ex-bfs have talked about marriage, wedding, children since month once and nothing ever happened; so now I’m a firm believer that actions speak louder than words. I think each one of us knows deep inside when a guy is commited. Oh and last thing: when a man that was shy about those topics finally starts bringing them up then you can bet there’s something serious going on in his head! Good luck and welcome to WB!
Post # 7
Thanks to all. I’m going to be patient as possible and keep my mouth shut. Maybe throw subtle hints. See if he freaks out. LOL. Like, I comment on pretty wedding dresses, rings, etc.
Hopefully I won’t have a long wait but we all know how men are about this.
All I know is I love him and want to be his forever!
Post # 8
For us its been tough to avoid wedding talk – since the second month together people have been asking when we are getting engaged! 2.5 years in and I am still waiting!
We talk about marriage a little, but he won’t discuss much of a timeline – we just have some financial goals to work towards first.
I say just sit tight and enjoy being together – it seems the more you talk about it the more frustrating it can be for all involved!
Post # 9
My Fiance was uninterested in marraige the first time we dated (and I was so we broke up). Several years past, he stayed my friend, but when he felt the urge to “nest” he made his feelings known and we reunited. So its now been our goal from the get-go.