(Closed) I’m insanely stressed already……

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
6892 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Most venues will only let you book one year in advance, so if you go by that timeline you still have a few months to choose a venue or two that you like. Maybe the date is important to get, but try and be flexible. If you don’t get the date, it’s not the end of the world. Don’t get too set on it until you DO have a venue!

I think a lot of people get caught up in the details – please don’t! That will make your experience that much LESS enjoyable. It’s fine and dandy to research, but not in a way that is having a negative effect on other areas of your life.

It will all work itself out; freaking out for over a year is not going to help. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 5
3004 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

@AmeliaBedelia: I was able to hold my venue a lot earlier than one year. ๐Ÿ™‚ I guess I was lucky!

Post # 6
646 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Once you get your date and venue picked out, you’ll feel a lot better. (I still have mini-freak outs about paying for the wedding, but my Fiance always calms me down.) The most stressful part for me was trying to figure out how much I HAD to spend on the wedding and trying to pick a date/venue.

A lot of venues don’t give the Sunday discount on holiday weekends…

Trust me, you’ll feel MUCH better once you pick out a place. ๐Ÿ™‚

Also, if you’re concerned about cost and not DEFINATELY set on NYC, think about New Jersey. My friend had a great wedding at one of the banquet places out there (that was GORGEOUS) and had everything included (AMAZING cocktail hour with TONS of food, great food, open bar all night, huge dessert room, etc) for the same price as it would have been in NYC for just dinner and a 1 hour open bar. ALSO, if you can pay in cash, a lot of the NY/NJ places negotiate, I hear…
(My friend then rented a bus to take guests from Manhattan to the reception and back… Still saved money. ๐Ÿ™‚ )

Good luck!

Post # 8
5118 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@BBee: Those first few weeks can feel crazy and like you have soooo much to do.

*take a deep breath* *take 5 more* You can, and will, get it all done, you just need to remind yourself that you do have time. I was really into getting our venue and church booked ASAP, and when I started looking in July things were booked for the next September and October..so we’re doing March of 2012.

I’d suggest talking with Fiance (and your families, if you are so inclined) and finding out what size of wedding you’re looking at and how many will be invited (drawing up guestslists, while obviously a rough-rough-draft, really helped Fiance and his folks to see how many people they actually wanted to come..eek!). From there you can look at venues of particular sizes, and book them if they do let you book that far out (we booked ours 18 months out). Really, after venue/ceremony location, you can take care of other ‘big’ things like food and photogs, and all those little other details can wait for months and months. It’s overwhelming at first, but it’ll settle down quickly. Happy planning!

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