- 7 years ago
- Wedding: November 2010
Last month, I bumped into an old co-worker at Starbucks. Let’s just call her ‘Sally’. She is the nicest girl on the planet! I actually don’t know why we didn’t keep in touch after I left my old job; we hung out several times while I was working there, but I never grew close to her. However, I stayed in contact with another girl there, who we’ll dub ‘Melissa’. ‘Melissa’ is coming to my wedding and is invited to one of my showers, which is happening in July. Melissa and Sally still work together, but Sally isn’t invited to my shower because, well, I just didn’t think of it!
Anyway, Sally told me when I saw her that she was getting married, and I told her that I was too! She hugged me and we agreed we should get together for lunch soon. And we added each other on Facebook a week later. That’s been it as far as keeping in touch. I’ve been meaning to message her but life is so busy right now.
Fast forward to yesterday. I get an invitation to Sally’s bridal shower, which is, believe it or not, the same day as mine next month! So now I’m feeling pretty bad and I’m not sure what to do. I’m obviously RSVPing ‘No,’ but do I tell Sally why? Or should I ask Melissa to please not say anything, in hopes of sparing Sally’s feelings? Or should I just, um, lol, send her an invitation to my own shower really quick so it looks like I had intended to invite her to mine? (LOL that’s not right to do, I know, but I sure am thinking about it!)
What would you ladies do? Tell her the truth or not risk hurting her feelings? I am definitely sending Sally a card and a gift. (I actually have her Crate and Barrel registry open on another tab, and I’m deliberating how much to spend, because I feel soooo guilty, lol, but I’m trying not to use my wallet to make up for it!)
Also, I can see on her registry that her wedding is in January. Should I assume that she might end up inviting me to her wedding too?! There’s still time for her to send me a save the date, and certainly time for an invitation… would you invite someone to a shower and not the actual wedding? Do you guys see what I mean? Ack, I feel so confused right now! Thanks for the input, I could really use some advice. 🙂
P.S. Look, I didn’t mess up again and put my post in the ’emotional’ section like a total nerd! Haha!