(Closed) i’m jealous…

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: does anyone else feel jealous?
    nope, not at all : (20 votes)
    23 %
    maybe a little bit : (53 votes)
    61 %
    hell yeah, a lot-a-bit : (14 votes)
    16 %
  • Post # 3
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I totally understand!  My Fiance and I are lucky in a bazillion ways, but I still can’t help but feel envious at times at women whose mothers are involved/loving/supportive, whereas mine is kind of a flop — just critical, unable to help, and self-centered.  I’m also totally jealous of brides with a better figure! I’ve struggled with my weight all my life, and that’s never more apparent than when I compare myself to other, thinner, more picture-perfect brides. 

    But it’s alright!  I’m pretty sure that we all have something (even if it’s NWR) that we’re jealous of!  And by focusing on the great parts of our wedding planning experiences (like our amazing fiancés), hopefully the jealousy will fade naturally (that’s worked for me at least!).

    Post # 4
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    2867 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I think it’s normal to feel like things would be easier if you had all those things. Who wouldn’t want all kinds of fabulousness? I seriously doubt there’s ever been a wedding that hasn’t had some sort of problem – even the ones with perfect bridesmaids and showers and budgets. 

    All that perfection only provides perfect wedding, not a perfect marriage. You have a Fiance who you love and loves you – I bet there are many many people jealous of that.

    Post # 6
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    2066 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I think the grass is always greener on the other side, so I try to be thankful for what I have and not be envious of what I do not have. 

    I really don’t think any bride has a perfect wedding.  Something always goes wrong.  Someone is always a pain in the butt. 

     

    Post # 7
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    2083 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I think it is normal to have feelings like that. I just wished that things were easier throughout the planning process, which obviously would have been the case if I were 1. made of money and 2. didn’t have to deal with other people. I had issues throughout the process with bridesmaids that was really hurtful, none of them that were being hurtful are aware that I know what they were doing because I just didn’t want to deal with them when I was trying my hardest to just enjoy the last bit of being engaged though.. Regardless, everything worked out but it does hurt that I’ll always remember the behind the scenes unnecessary drama of some of the most important events of being a bride.

    Post # 8
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    860 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Jealousy is normal.  I get jealous, even though I am working hard not to.  I look at these people on Platinum Weddings, and even some posters on here with very large budgets and get a twinge of jealousy.  But it’s all relative.  I know it is corny, but think of how even someone with a $1,000 budget would look to someone living in poverty.  You can always look up, but you can always look down, too.

    Post # 9
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    279 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I was freaking out because of the low number of “yes” RSVP’s for our desination wedding, and I said, “I was afraid our wedding would be a flop.”  And yes, I was wishing I had more money for a fabulous expensive dress, and like BostonBride, a mother who wasn’t über critical of every aspect of our wedding.

    My fiance said, “the only way it would be a flop is if one of us doesn’t show.”

    It really brought things into persepective for me.

    Post # 11
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    10851 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I totally agree. I’m jealous of bridal showers that are perfectly perfect with gorgeous invitations and beautiful settings with handmade this and that, beautiful desserts… Sigh. If I were throwing my own shower, that’s exactly how it would be, but I know that for Maid/Matron of Honor with her two kids, it’s just not going to happen. I’m super excited to celebrate with the ladies I love, but *sigh* a girl can dream 😉

    That being said, Fiance and I are really fortunate to have a lot of other fabulous things and we don’t have a huge limit on what we’re doing for the wedding, so I’m going to get over the beautiful blog bridal shower and come back down to earth now. At the end of the day, all that matters is that the officiant, Fiance and myself show up! Everything else is lovely but extraneous 😉

    Post # 13
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    5977 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I totally agree! I think it’s normal to be jealous. We were super lucky in a lot of ways, but our wedding was full of drama thanks to my mom. Everything was about her and what she wanted. It was definitely stressful to deal with, and I wish the whole process was less stressful and I enjoyed my day more. But, it did make me appreciate my honemoon all the more. The important thing is, I married my husband that day, and he’s wonderful. We got through the day, and he had a great time. I was definitely stressed out, but I made it! I love going to weddings now! And being in them! I try to help the bride be as least stressed out as possible, and it feels good to know I have a hand in her happiness for the day :o)  

    Post # 14
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    10851 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    @brittanymichelle – Awww that sucks! I’m so sorry hon! I would be pretty sad about that too 🙁 

    Post # 15
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    1956 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School

    I think we all get jealous at times, I definitely do! It’s good to talk about it here on the boards, get it out and hopefully hear some suggestions and new perspectives…And like you said, your FH sounds pretty awesome so ultimately, you really do win! 

    Post # 16
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I am totally jealous of brides who have amazing parties thrown in their honor, bridesmaids who want to help them out, people who actually help, brides who have real showers and those who have bacholorette weekends.

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