(Closed) I’m Just About Ready to Buy MY OWN RING and Marry MYSELF!

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Bumble bee

Wow!! I am just speechless!

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

first off, i TOTALLY love ur title, it’s what drew me into read your post! not at your frustration, but LOL at the humor!

as for the waiting… in hindsight, (yes i told Fiance that i was impatiently waiting for the proposal – although we hadn’t started planning, i didn’t want to move in together unless we were engaged)…

 

i totally understand where your Fiance is coming from… i’m sure it’s right around the corner, but he genuinely really just wants to surprise you!!! it’s not fair that he used the $ thing as something you should draw out your patience for… but just breathe… and be excited that you’ve already started planning!!! 🙂 you have SO much to look forward to, don’t let this lil waiting game get the best of you!! it will come and by the sounds of it… VERY SOON!

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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

That is pretty crazy. I wouldn’t be able to not think about it, either!

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I think it’s impossible not to expect a proposal if you’re already planning the wedding together.  At the same time, he probably still wants to surprise you.  So, OK, the occurance of the event can’t be a surprise, but the way it unfolds (and the ring?) CAN be.  He probably just wants to preserve that, and wants it to be as special as it can be on its own, rather than on one of those days when you might expect it a little more.

In my case, I totally knew that Fiance was going to propose.  We were planning an anniversary picnic for a Sunday afternoon and I knew he was going to propose then.  The Wednesday before we went out to dinner and then took a walk down the block to get coffee.  On the way back from the cafe out of no where he got down on one knee.  So the proposal didn’t surprise me, since I was expecting it to happen, but the details certainly did! (I was still holding a soy latte, for goodness sakes!)

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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I would be frustrated about planning a wedding without a ring as well, so I don’t really have any advice for you on that front except to just trust him that he really is planning on doing it soon!

Just FYI, my hubby said the same thing about birthdays, holidays, etc.. (which I thought was total crap because to me it meant that it would be romantic and memorable) and basically the same thing as your man said about “taking away his moment”. I know how hard it is to hear those words believe me! I kept wanting a proposal on my birthday, and he kept telling me he wasn’t going to do it on my birthday which REALLY ticked me off BUT he ended up doing it the day before my b-day. Hang in there!

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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I agree I LOVE your post title as well.

But I’m a little confused about your situation. Are you “unofficially” engaged like just the ring is missing? But he has already proposed with a stand in (whether it be a rubber band on your finger or whatnot) and you said yes? Or has there just been talk and nothing “officially” has happened yet?
I’m a tad bit thrown by the fact that you guys have put deposits down on things already!

Just me.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I understand where you are coming from. It is hard to not expect a proposal when he wants you to plan a wedding. I guess he just wants to surprise you. I don’t understand why guys don’t get that it is hard to plan a wedding and not expect a proposal.

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Yup, post title really pulled me.

I would feel the same way.  I guess what confuses me is that he thinks “his moment” will be ruined by you expecting an official proposal and a ring sometime soon.  Duh, why does one start planning a wedding?  I knew my Fiance was looking at rings and I knew he would propose in the coming months but I had no idea, when, where, how and I also had no idea that up his sleeve he also asked my dad for his blessing–which I’m thrilled but it was never deemed a must but I love that he did. 

Does he think you are wanting to know when and where he will propose too?

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Yeah…I would hate that…how do you not expect a proposal when you’re in the midst of planning? Men are so backwards sometimes…I know it would be extremely hard, but try to find something else to concentrate on in the meantime…ugh, men.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Is he not ready to get married??

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

IMO you are engaged.  Certainly my mom didn’t have an engagement ring but that didn’t make her any less engaged when she and my dad decided to get married.  🙂

Being a mean person myself I’d tell him and act as if you are completely indifferent about his little ‘proposal’ since you are already engaged, what does it matter when you get a ring? let him have his little playacting.  😉  Though I’d make sure my reaction to the proposal insured his feeling weren’t too hurt. 

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Mister Toaster also insists that the engagement “is about him too, you know” and I can mostly see where he is coming from and I confess I have been quite impatient ever since we knew for sure that we were going to get married…  So to help put it into perspective for you, it isn’t JUST about you, but the both of you. Mine dangles it (the impending proposal) a bit sometimes (MEAN), but if yours isn’t, just be patient! 

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Blushing bee

I must say that I was in your shoes 7 months ago. My Fiance and I talked about getting married a few months after we started dating, so we started planning and making out lists and all that, I knew he is saving up for the ring and here I was, waiting and waiting and waiting. We had the date set and everything, I started to take care of my part and still waited for the ring, I have to say that I was getting really frustrated before he finally made the purchase. After I finally got the ring, I did feel a sense of relief, like he really does want to marry me (of course he does, but without the ring, there is still a nagging doubt). Afterwards, he did tell me that although he was sure and really commited to me, me going out to get the dress within a short time of us talking about getting married did throw him off a bit. I was like, what?? One of the most important element of getting married, and he was freakin out because I did what I was supposed to?? MAN!!!! I totally know what you are talking about, but I think that in my FI’s case, he wasn’t just saving up for the wedding and the ring, he was also putting some money away for his daughter’s eventual marriage someday too which he didn’t want to tell me about, hence the delay in getting the ring.

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