(Closed) I'm just not that into it!

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

I did. If it wasn’t for my mom, our wedding would have been pretty pathetic. She planned and executed almost everything!

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I can relate to an extent! We are at the end of our planning and we are just drained! So many events, so many meetings, decisions, appointments; I’ve had to go to work early/leave early, come in late/leave late, work through lunches, take half days.. I’m a successful insurance broker yet my paychecks are disappearing toward the wedding. I love being engaged, I have the best fiancé who is so loving and really involved with all of the planning; supportive fam and friends, but planning a wedding can take a lot out of someone! I know it will be so beautiful and worth it in the end, but I don’t want to experience it again, lol! 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Heh, if it wasn’t for DH wanting a wedding and my best friend being awesome at girl stuff we’d have hit the courthouse or the wedding would have been 1/10 as nice or DH would have had to plan it. 🙂  As long as you’re both fine with the way it works, that’s all that matters!

But I did have awesome girly best friend (who could see “girly” in my world lol) and DH worked tons of overtime before our wedding so he was really busy/tired… still stuff got run by him.  So her and I planned it but it was her “this, this, this, or that… what do you like?” or “for this what do you want?”, step by step.  I’m an organizer so I told her at one point “can’t you just give me a list?”… she replied “I’m doing this in stages so as not to freak you out.” lol.  I just said “ok”.  We did get to spend a bunch of time together so that was a plus :).

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Yeah wedding planning is the suxx0rs basically

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I love pinning stuff and I’m excited about the thought of it all coming together but absolutely dread the thought of having to actually start organising and doing it all.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper

Yes, I want very much to be married and I would like a nice, elegant, memorable wedding, but I am truly not into wedding planning. You’re lucky to have your FI do most of the footwork… just enjoy and tell him how much you appreciate it! 🙂

My FI is currently feeling like I am and has done about 50% of what we’ve done so far (which I appreciate). Still, due to our very lukewarm feelings about many little wedding planning details, we haven’t gotten far in our planning. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@ahbsbee:  yeah sometimes i feel like this although i enjoy it for the most part. Im lucky ive got fi who is so enthusiatic and involved with the wedding i almost feel bad for not taking that initiative on my own. Without him id be so unmotivated aka CBF’d.

can i ask, is there i particular reason why you feel youre not into it? Eg stress, money, straight up not interested?

(:

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

We’re in the same boat!  I’m getting married in less than 4 months, and it still feels like I have a LOT to do.  We have the big things taken care of (venue, catering, dresses, DJ) but I have NO motivation to plan all of what I consider the little things (decorations, cake, dance songs).  Honestly, we are just ready for the day to be here!

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@RedCushionedRoses:  <– this is EXACTLY how I felt.

Wedding planning is difficult! No wonder there are professional wedding planners! I’m so relieved my wedding is over. It turned out awesome but yeah, so glad it’s done haha

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’ve actually started saying that I hate my wedding, lol. I don’t really, but I’m kind of just over it. I truly just want to be married to my fiance now. The day seems more and more pointless the closer we come to it. That being said, I’m sure I’ll get all excited again once the invitations come back and are ready to be sent out!

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@ahbsbee:  Wedding planning stresses me out and gives me huge headaches! I just dont enjoy it i think i liked the idea of being able to plan more than i actually like doing it. We were going to have a big wedding next september but then we decided we would rather have a small ceremony and reception at my mums this year, save a ton of money, not as much stress and we dont even have to clean up afterwards. Score! 

I just want the wedding to be over with so i can get on with my life and carry on expanding my family =]

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@perfectingfaith:  I feel the same. I am so over this. I want a nice day, but I cannot make an effort to care about centerpieces and entertaining at a reception, stressed that everyone will have a good time or that I am doing things right. When have I ever cared about that stuff? Never in my life! I hate that I am spending over $5000 of my hard earned money on it. I would so rather have taken an awesome vacation. I am doing this because my fiance and I are the first of the kids to get married, and the family is excited. But I can’t wait for my normal life to return…

 

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013 - rolling hills of southern italy

I do, but I am all alone here, so if I don’t do it, no one will. I got told to relax and do other stuff by my jeweler yesterday….. Seriously? Do you know who’s much stuff I have to get done? and how much of a chore it is?!

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