Post # 1
so at the beginning of tihs week, Future Mother-In-Law came to stay as she had a nasty fall down the stairs and Future Father-In-Law is away on business. both today and yesterday fi has left at 9am and not come back till really really late (normally back around 5, its 10 now and hes not back and sent no messages). today, she was complaining of severe stomach pains and how she needed medicine but he wasnt replying to her messages (he didnt reply to my calls either)
just to get things clear – i get that he has to work late sometimes, and of course Future Mother-In-Law should be with us when injured as shes family!
but given the massive language barrier (im living in mexico but basically dont know much spanish and she doesnt speak english) and the fact that i cant drive….is it too much to expect him to keep the phone with him?!
luckily i managed to persuade a neighbour to take me to the pharmacy to buy the list of things she wrote down, but i hardly know him so it was kind of embarrassing. (taxi company said they were backed up and would be an hour to come)
i was really worried – it seems shes had these pains before and its called “gastritis” (not even sure if thats a word in english, but thats the spanish one) but luckily doesnt need a doctor.but i mean what if she had a heart attack or something serious and i needed him to pick up the damn phone
am i completely overreacting? it just left me really stressed, with her asking where exactly her son was and me with no idea. i mean normally he says when he’ll be home or sends messages to say he’ll be late. dont get what happened yesterday or whats happening today
vent over. i feel a little bit soothed. im self aware enough to know that a good part of it is feeling overhwhelmed by living in a different country and not knowing how to do things like i would back in london, but still a bit irked
Post # 3
Maybe he’s not allowed to take calls at work? If that’s the case, I would ask him to explain to his boss that his mother is having health problems and see if an exception can be made. Regardless, he should definitely keep you informed about where he is and when he expects to be home.
Good luck and kudos for doing what you can to take care of your Future Mother-In-Law. I’d be very overwhelmed in your position too.
Post # 4
@Regina Phalange: hes self employed as he has his own business, so hes either getting a delivery ready which is just about possible, or hes having a boozy client meeting…which seems to involve a little bit of business chat and then long drinks afterwards
at least now shes asleep ive had time to google what gastritis is so i know its painful but not dangerous. at the time i was just hearing “i have gastritis” and thinking, ‘no idea what that is but shes at the point of tears. panic!”
Post # 5
@newname_99: Ah, in that case I think you should explain what happened and how scared you were, and tell him you need to be able to contact him in case there’s an emergency.
Glad she is resting up.
Post # 6
Not over reacting. With his mother not feeling well and the language barrier, he should have his phone on him or at least let you know if he’s going to be that late. And actually, mother or not staying with you, 5 hours, anythig later than 2-3 hours, and I expect a heads up so I’m not wondering and worrying if hes ok.
Post # 7
i feel like he’s “gas light-ing” me (you know, the old movie where the man tries to convince the woman that shes going mad)
so he literally just called, just before 11.30. and seems casually relieved i solved the problem. and then he said “i always have late meetings on wednesday, you know that!”. and im like, ‘mmmm dont think i did, you were definitely there last wed night and the week before. i cant remember other weeks”
now im starting to wonder if he does have weekly meetings but i swear he doesnt! not on the same day every week. mmm we have a lot of conversations like this, either im forgetful, he is or hes actively trying to make me think im crazy hahahaha