Post # 1
We went in a few weeks ago to design our wedding bands. Both FIs family and my family were giving us diamonds from our grandmothers’ old jewelry to make our bands. We decided to do a 1/2 eternity band using 5 diamonds from each family (10 total). The jeweler also talked me into white gold instead of platinum. He said he’d call us in 2 weeks with the estimate, after he made the wax mold for the ring. Fast Forward 2 weeks later and my Fiance gets a call today saying my ring is DONE. The jeweler says he gave us a quote that day and we said to go ahead and make it. Also, in the meantime I was pretty sure I changed my mind into wanting a platinum ring, because my e-ring is platinum. AND he said he had to add 2 diamonds to the ring, which he didnt charge us for. I’m so annoyed! We know for a fact that we didn’t tell him to go ahead. And I think he should have called to get our OK on adding the 2 diamonds.
So now I dont know what to do. Im really non-confrontational and hate raising a stink. But I KNOW that we are right. And I kinda really want my ring in platinum. Do I call and tell him he needs to re-do it?
Post # 3
I’m like you. I probably would have just let it go but this is your wedding ring.. you shouldn’t pay for something you don’t love! Go for something you like! Ask your fiance to call for you, I’d have mine call
Post # 4
The important question is, did you sign a paper that had the specs of the ring he ordered and the price? Did you sign anything at all? If not, you’re under no obligation to buy, and you can just walk away.
Post # 5
Also I highly recommend NOT to get a white gold wedding band! I found out the hard way just how fast white gold turns yellow with age. Sitting right next to your platinum band, it won’t look good.
Post # 6
@jenbrandner – it might be more difficult to walk away because the jewler used her 10 diamonds that she will need to get back if she decides not to take the ring.
@rachel077 – I personally would go into the store in person with your fiance and discuss the situation with the jeweler. Maybe you’ll be surprised when you see the ring and you’re like it. If not, you can identify specifically what you want changed.
Post # 7
I think this jeweler is shady. I know this sucks but at this point, I’d cut my losses and look for a new jeweler with this ring and have a new one made. Maybe the new jeweler can melt this ring down into a pendant.
Post # 8
why did he get to keep the diamonds though?
Post # 9
The jeweler is someone my parents have worked with before, and his shop is 2 doors down from my mom’s shop. So he was someone we trusted. He kept the diamonds because we wanted him to make the ring, but he was supposed to call us with an estimate first. He said that he couldn’t quote us a price at the time because he wouldn’t know how much gold the ring would need until he made teh wax mold. I dont really think he’s shady, I think he just went ahead and made the ring without our final OK. And I had changed my mind after the initial meeting and was going to tell him when he called with the quote.
Post # 10
you need to put your foot down.. i know its hard… i would get my partner to do it for me as i’m the same as you and hate being in situations like this. But like everyone has said its YOUR wedding band… this is something that is going to be on you for life, so you have to make sure its what YOU want.
Post # 11
Hmm that’s really odd and not normal practice for jewelers. I don’t understand why he would think that was acceptable.
Post # 12
I think you definatly need to say something! If you did not sign any papers there is no way he should have made the ring! Go to the jewler and talk with him face to face. If he knows your mom I am sure he doesn’t want any hard feelings either! Good luck!