(Closed) I'm kinky, I don't think he's into it?

posted 4 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Edit: misread post!

  • This reply was modified 3 years, 9 months ago by  KitSnicket.
Post # 17
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I would not start out reading erotica or trying to introduce him to the D/s lifestyle by method of porn or even sexual role play. If you’re interested in a 24/7 D/s dynamic, sit down together or simply ask him to begin doing the research from a non-sexual perspective. Yes, there are bedroom “scenes” the play is nice, but that isn’t what it’s abour nor is it where it should start/end. Definaitely do some research on what it means to actually be a Dom and find out if that’s what he’s comfortable with; if he isn’t by nature, it won’t be something he can force.

Post # 19
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2017 - Bahamas

In my experience, it is difficult to “turn” someone. You say you’d like 24/7 and not just rough sex. A Dominant man has very specific personality traits that can’t be taught. Now maybe your Fiance does have those traits and just isn’t embracing that side of himself. In that case, some of the ladies here have excellent ideas! Read exotica. Maybe go to a local munch. Take it slow. But if he’s just not a Dominant, it’s not something you can teach him. You can guide him, but if he’s not a Dom, you can’t make him a Dom and its going to feel fake and forced and you won’t get the reactions you want from him. 

That said, you have to decide if it’s something you can live with out. i’m in a 24/7 M/s relationship right now and i’ve tried dating vanilla guys in the past.Sure, they liked rough sex occasionally but never really did any of the things that make it 24/7 and i couldn’t live with that. 

 

If you’d like to chat, feel free to PM me! i’ve been in the lifestyle for a while, so i’m always open to help others!

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