(Closed) I'm living in a nightmare!!!!

posted 6 years ago in April 2013
Post # 3
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428 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Hey, date twin! Sorry you’re having a rough time. I haven’t really had any problems with my planning process, which is why I’m convinced that the week before the wedding is going to be a hellish mess.

Do you know why your BMs haven’t picked up their dresses? Is that something you can do for them? I know it shouldn’t be your responsibility, but I understand some stores will refund your money and send back or sell dresses if they’re not picked up in a reasonable amount of time.

I’m sorry your Maid/Matron of Honor wasn’t planning your party for you. Was she just procrastinating, or does she have other things on her plate right now? At any rate, I’m glad you have someone who is planning a bachelorette party for you 🙂 Do you know what you’re doing yet?

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@catbird:  I would see what’s up with Maid/Matron of Honor. Have a talk with her. I know at this stage of planning a minute to do anything else besides wedding planning seems almost impossible! I wouldn’t let “helpful BM’s” favors go unappreciated. I would give her something nice. Side note: I originally had 6 BMs, 2 of which were MOHs. One Maid/Matron of Honor did ABSOLUTELY nothing and complained about everything and didn’t show up for anything (bridal shower or Bridesmaid or Best Man dress appt). She ended up backing out of the wedding 4 months before the wedding date. I plan on getting the other Maid/Matron of Honor who has been nothing BUT helpful and by my side a gift certificate for a facial in addition to other gifts I have gotten and the other girls (I now have only 3 girls total but I’m glad the drama is out of my wedding party!)

 

I hate you are going thru that! I am having financial struggles. I’ve been restlessly making budget cuts to be able to pay off what we have left to pay (the list is so long, I don’t want to list it!) Plus now it’s the guys turn to pay for their tuxes and I’m worried some of them may flake out because they can’t afford it (it’s only $142.80 including tax) and what’s even worse, the programs are already made if they decide they can’t do it 🙁

Post # 5
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49 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2013

My venue wanted me to get insurance, but I got a tip that sometimes renters insurance will cover it for you! My renters insurance is only $13/month and it completely covered my venue. Something to check in to!

Post # 6
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189 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@catbird:  Hello date twin! Firstly, I want to say that I am so so so sorry you are going through this. I can’t say I know exactly how you feel, but I am also experiencing my own stress which has brought on a ton of mixed emotions. My troubles all started after my bridal shower at the end of February. It was a perfect day, and a perfect shower and then right after it’s like everything took a turn for the worst.

My fiance and I couldn’t get through to the reverend at our church, so haven’t been able to plan our ceremony because his secretary wouldn’t return our calls. We just finally got an appointment this week (less that 3 weeks before the big day), but I was stressing for awhile because I had no idea what was going to happen since they were so flaky. My future sister in law tried to ruin my bachelorette party this past weekend (won’t go into details) but we basically had to kick her out because she was throwing a tantrum about the venue my maid of honour chose as she planned an entire surprise weekend for me. As a result my fiance and I do not want her coming to our wedding and still have to break the news to her. For those that think that’s harsh let me add that the last thing she said to me via drunken text was that she wished I choked on my bachelorette dinner she paid for. She also apparently said some catty remarks at my shower that I was later told and this is just the last straw. My grandfather had a heart attack last week and is now on life support. There have been no changes in his progress and my mom had to leave our province to go be with him understandably. He wasn’t planning on coming to my wedding because of his shaky health, but I had others (including my grandma) that booked their flights and now will not be able to come. My other grandmother also suddenly cannot attend because her husband’s son is in hospice. I could go on with smaller things that also happened but those are by far the worst.

I am devastated because my wedding is less than 3 weeks away, and it seems like things just couldn’t get worse. But I just keep telling myself that they really could and to focus on the positives. Sorry to unload, I just really had to say that you’re not the only one in (multiple) shitty situations. I hope everything works out for you, because you deserve to have a wonderful day, and no vendor or family member should ruin that! *hugs!*

Post # 7
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278 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

While I haven’t been having vendor issues (I lucked out and found a venue that was owned by a caterer and she has her own team of wedding decorator and flourist), I’m looking out my window and scowling.

My wedding is supposed to be outside on a lake here in AL at sunset. It’s normally mid 70s this time of year but today it’s snowing! Up until this year I’ve seen snow maybe 5 times in my life and now it seems to snow once a wekk just to spite me!

Post # 8
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209 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@catbird:  No you are not the only one having problems! I can totally relate to you! This past week has been more stressful than the previous year we’ve been engaged & planning.

We’ve had problems with my wedding block as well, because of a stupid Nascar race which is the same weekend.  They kept telling my wedding guests that the hotel is full & they can’t find our names… ugh it is ridiculous.  I got in a screaming match with the manager yesterday after he told my bridesmaid she couldn’t get the group rate, so my nerves are a bit rattled.

And my FI’s brother (who was supposed to be a groomsman) texted my Fiance last weekend that he wasn’t coming.  Saying he couldn’t get off work… after he had over a years notice. grrrr

But I just keep reminding myself that once the day is here, it will all be worth it! So keep your head up & don’t let anything get to you 🙂

Post # 9
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209 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Soon2BMrs.T:  I just read your post and now I feel bad for even complaining about my problems.  I hope your grandpa is doing ok! Good luck with everything!

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