Post # 1
I’m 25. I’m working a job I hate. I feel like a child in school here. At first I didn’t realize what I was getting myself into. Now I feel stuck in the job, because it ended up being a total file clerk type position. I have no experience. I hate working in offices, but I don’t seem to have any experience in any other setting. I’ve gone through college, but haven’t finished due to working and no knowing what to even major in. Being that I really honestly hate office jobs being confined in a building all day in front of a computer doing work isn’t my cup of tea. I need something more creative. I love to make things and if anyone’s seen from previous post I’ve been trying to see if selling the bouquets I made or things in that nature can lead me down a better career path.
I feel stuck though. And I suppose a little scared. Okay maybe a lot scared. I feel sometimes like any move I make will be the wrong one. Sometime I feel not worth people’s time and maybe I need to build up my self esteem. I kind of feel like I’m going in circles everyday. I know people have told me get a new job! Okay yea sounds good, but in this economy? And that not even the biggest problem because really I could find another job I can do right now, but I would pry hate it just as much. I wish I could just not let it bother me like my husband. He can go to work and hate it, but not let it affect him as much for me it’s like my world is ending sometimes. I could go to school yes. I’m debating on doing a business degree even though I hate office jobs, at least once day that might help me run my own business. If not that then what? That the problem I keep running into. I’ve taken career test etc and done research etc and still I can’t figure it out. Will I ever?
Does anyone else ever feel this lost?
Post # 3
I hear ya. I’m 26, working an office job I can’t stand. I went to college for nearly 5 years, was really close to getting a degree in Studio Art, and then I ran out of money, Sallie Mae would no longer give me a loan, I tried a few other places, federal funding wasn’t enough. So here I am, 3 years later, still working a job I hate, stuck at a desk, in front of a computer.
I wish I had advice for you. I’m hoping once fiance and I get settled in a house I can start taking some night classes. But I’m with you. I have no idea what to take that won’t land me right back in front of a computer, sitting on my ass typing and filing. I mean studio art was great, and I’m close to being finished, but unless I go on to get my masters and teach, what the hell am I supposed to do with that? I wish I could make a living off of an Etsy shop, but I don’t see it happening 🙁 sorry I’m not very helpful 🙁
Post # 4
I understand where you are coming from.
An office job can be boring and sucky, but not all “office jobs” are created equal. Some are more creative, some have great co-workers etc, but generally you wont get to the more interesting and challengin jobs without an education. You could be executive assistant in a law firm or a event planner and the jobs will be very very different. Generally liberal arts type degrees, though, wont give you many opportunities.
Think about what is it you like to do and make a list of jobs and industries related to it. Then go through and figure out what it would take to get those jobs or work in those industries. And most importantly, go and do it!
It may help to look for a job that helps pay for education, or work with your employer for flexible hours to take some classes etc. A lot of colleges have Saturday classes that are easy to work into your schedule.
It helps if you have a plan and recognize that your current job is a means to an end.
Post # 5
Sometimes its just nice to know your not the only one. I know I do and many other feel alone in certain situations, but when you here how others feels the same way it makes the anguish a little easier that its not just you who can’t be content with a crappy job or the feeling of being lost.
Post # 6
I hate my job and it’s what I went to school for! I like what I do, but hate where I am. I feel like I’m in prison and it has effected my health. Hugs for you!!!
Post # 7
chica i’m right there with you…. i’ve always said i wanted to be an architect…you’d think that is a very creative job but after being at my job for 6 yrs, i honestly don’t wanna do it anymore…. i’m also 25, 6 yrs of office experience in a firm, 7 yrs of part time college under my belt with 3.5 more yrs to go….and i’m sick of it…lol
i just want to design, do something actually creative….as lefeymw mentioned, sometimes is better to have a plan…. its taken me all summer and up til now to figure out that i really wanna make a change…my first choice is switching to a photography career….in my case though, i dont want to switch my major cuz i wanna have the architecture degree to fall back on….but i’m thinking of starting out with an unpaid photography assistant position somewhere for like jsut the weekends or something….and just basically learn and build a portfolio and see where it takes me…
i feel like its gonna take some trail and error to figure out what you wanna do….hang in there and don’t give up!! ::hugs:: <3
Post # 8
Thanks bee’s. you guys are always the best!
Post # 9
Okay, I’m bringing this thread back because I am in thw same situation. I am also 25 and I am literally in tears because of how much I hate what I do. I make decent money, average for the area, and my family relies on it to survive, so its not like I can just get any other job, I can’t make less than what I am making now. I don’t know what to do, and like the OP said I wish it didn’t bother me so much. I feel trapped, I don’t understand half of my job because it is very technical utility stuff and I really don’t know what my boss even sees in me. He is a very patient and understanding boss, though. My self-esteem is crushed and I really think that it is the cause of a lot of my low times (depression feeling days).
I thought I wanted to be an architect, so I do have an associate’s degree in architectural drafting. The only reason I didn’t continue with my education is because there are no schools that offer any architecture classes in the area. I can’t think of anything else that I would be good at or at least enjoy and with the economy the way it is, its just a moot point anyway. And because of this I am grateful to have a steady job and I know I am better off than a lot of people, but it just sucks. I don’t know how long I can keep doing the job and feeling this way.
Has anyone overcome this?
Post # 10
OMG…I had to re-read your post Leche4evr. I re-read it because I thought it was possibly something I posted late at night that I’d forgotten about. I truly thought I’d written it and/or you were reading my or living my life.
Too bad no one has a magic answer. I’m thinking of trying to intern on the weekends or evenings. I too feel scared to try anything else. I worry that others that depend on me don’t want me to take time for myself to do this. I also worry about everyone thinking I will fail and that I actually will. I haven’t even said it outl oud to my husband. I want to do interior decorating, have no degree what so ever, not even liberal arts. I feel like I am good at and have an eye for it. I thought maybe interning for free in my “spare” time might give me an idea of what the field is like as well as a foot in the door. This way too by doing it for free I wouldn’t feel so much pressure to impress.
Maybe this is something you could do too if you can find the time. I know this post is older but if you still get emails when someone posts maybe you’ll read this. Good luck and I sure hope you figure it out. I believe people when they say, “If you love your work you will never work a day in your life.” It’d be like doing your hobby, making money at it and receiving kudos for it.
Post # 11
This thread sums up how I’m feeling, though the circumstances are different.
I honestly would love to have an office type job. 🙁 I’m currently working in a factory and I hate it. I carry a 20lb part and feed it into a machines, walking in a circle all night long. My feet are in so much pain at the end of the night, that I’m literally crying from it when I come home from work. I only get 30 minutes of break a night (one 10 minute small one and a 20 minute lunch). I hate it so much, but this is best job I can find in this town. All other jobs are entry level labor that pays closer to minimum wage. At least, I can get $10 an hour. I have no choice to work there. They’ve raised our rent and with gas and food going up in price, I have to take what money I can get. I wish I could get a job that would allow me to sit down once in a while.
What really sucks about this is that I have my college degree and I love my field. I was suppose to be art teacher. I have my K-12 certifcate. I got an A in student teaching. Everyone said I showed great promise…but I still can’t get anyone to hire me as a first time teacher. It’s been a year and still no offers. I was hoping I wouldn’t have to do this kind of grunt work anymore. That’s why I went to college, you know? 🙁 I’m afraid to go back for my Masters because I already spent all that money on a BSE and it hadn’t earned itself back yet. Sometimes, I doubt if I’ll ever get to work at a job I enjoy again, let alone get to teach.
Post # 12
Feeling all you ladies, too!
I’m 27 and I went to college to be a teacher, couldn’t get substitute teaching work except for 2 days during an entire school year so gave up and now I’m working at a call center where I get yelled at, called a liar, called other nasty names and incompetent far more often than I’d like to, but in Australia, it pays really well. I have no idea what I want to do now…I don’t miss teaching so that’s probably a sign. I also know I can’t handle working in a call center forever, either, but I have no idea what it is I actually want to do with myself.
My sister is totally ballsy. She has had a clear vision all her life of what she wanted to do so she went to school for it, then paid for a couple of months in South Africa to do an internship, and now she’s been accepted to the University of Cape Town and has moved down there to do 2-3 years worth of studies on Great White Sharks. I wish I had that kind of vision and direcetion for my own life!
Post # 13
I know how you feel. I have a dual engineering degree and I wanted a hands on job. I got a job in my dream industry doing my dream job in theory…… in reality it’s all desk work and politics, nothing like the job that was described to me.
I’m currently job hunting but there’s nothing out there for me in this area (Kevin has a job he loves, so I’m staying local).
Also, I’ve heard rumors of more outsourcing which means more layoffs. I’m not sad about losing my job but more the finances since I think my bf will be proposing in the next few months. We could not afford a wedding if I had a major pay cut or if I lost my job.
Post # 13
I can’t remember the last time I enjoyed my job. I have two degrees (engineering & IT) yet lack of training, office politics, bureaucracy, clueless management and especially outsourcing took all fun out of it, turning what used to be a creative job into an endless paper trail chase. I miss being in mutli-discipline team where we all sat together and worked towards the same objectives, it’s now all ‘virtual teams’ with offshored third party ‘partners’ all working to their own agendas with young ‘consultants’ running around with spreadsheet trackers monitoring ‘progress’. The money might be good, but it’s a horrible way to waste my life.
Post # 14
seta.soso: Uh, this is no consolation but please know that I SOOOOO know how you feel. You described it so well! “Horrible way to waste my life”… When I read that, it was like someone finally put into word what I’ve felt for a while!
I say let us be proactive and look for other opportunites! I’m going to get my resume redone by a professional to try and change industries. Maybe seeing a career coach would give you ideas as to how to change your situation? But again, more sympathetic, I could not be! Virtual hugs Feel free to PM me if you need to vent. Or on here, I’ll follows this thread!
Post # 15
Leche4evr: I sympathize with you because I HATE MY JOB TOOO!!!! I have a bachelors degree in psychology and i am currently working at a call center for a health insurance company….and we all know ppl hate insurance companies. I am currently applying to graduate school, my goal is to become a licensed clinical social worker…so hopefully once i get in, i will graduate on time in 2 years and start my career. The only thing i can suggest is try to find something “easy” for you to do, that you will enjoy, that will pay as much as you make now…until you figure things out …best of luck to you!