(Closed) I'm MOH and I want out…

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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2527 posts
Sugar bee

SHE’S CRAZY AS HELL. But the nearly $1k dress has been paid for, you protested hard as could be but ultimately DID agree to participate, motor thru and get it done.

Post # 3
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Sugar bee

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leilarobs2 :  +1

But for real, that girl is cray 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

Because she’s C R A Z Y!! She didn’t even have your PHONE NUMBER all these years, now she canNOT do this without her oldest and dearest friend by her side.

Post # 6
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Helper bee

She sounds a little desperate to have you as her Maid/Matron of Honor.  Usually you would ask your closest friend, not your “longest friend”.   She seems very pushy.  After she spent that kind of money on your dress, the only thing to do is go through with it as best you can, but your baby and your health come first!  After all, you will be giving birth just a few short weeks before the wedding! Goodluck! And congrats on your baby 🙂

Post # 7
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Worker bee

WOW! She’s definitely trying to guilt you into being her Maid/Matron of Honor. There’s really no sentiment attached to your friendship as you two didn’t speak for 10 years prior to her calling and begging. Sounds like her only reason of wanting you to be her Maid/Matron of Honor is because you’ve been friends since elementary school. An evil side of me wants you to take the $900 dress, and NOT show up for her wedding. just kidding. NOT.

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

She’s nuts but you are way too passive for your own good.  You have never once managed to say NO in a convincing manner. I think you placed yourself in the position of having to follow through.

Then I suggest assertiveness training.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

She sounds completely off the wall. Why would you want someone you haven’t spoken to in years to be your MOH? So weird. 

But like the others, it seems like since you didn’t manage to say no and the dress is paid for, you probably need to grin and bear it. If you are only attending the ceremony, hopefully you are fine with respect to your newborn. I’m assuming she will want everyone to get ready together and then photos and stuff. This is really where you need to put your foot down if you ar in any way uncomfortable about leaving your baby for that time. Do not keep letting her bully you into things. I’m assuming your husband/bf (not sure of your relationship status) will be there? If she absolutely “needs” you to be in photos, have him tag along with the baby. That way you at least won’t be too far away but won’t necessarily have to worry about looking about them. 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

NO is not a four-letter word. You can literally just say NO and that will be the end of it. It doesn’t sound like you care about her at all (not that I would, either), so it’s not like it’s some huge friendship lost if she decides she doesn’t want to be friends with you after this. Personally I would extricate myself from this situation immediately if not sooner. 

Post # 11
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Helper bee

I wonder if she NEEDED you as Maid/Matron of Honor because everyone else straight up refused. I wouldn’t blame them. And you got suckered into it not knowing better because you haven’t been around her since she was 6 and didn’t realize how insane she’s become.

Post # 12
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297 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Stick with your gut and break it off with her. She sounds really unreasonable and demanding. Not someone you want back in your life right as you prepare to start your family!

Post # 13
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Sugar bee

When she shows up with the dress, tell her no, you’re not doing it. There is no way to let crazy down easily. Tell her no, don’t let her in and don’t let her leave the dress with you. 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I would ghost her.

Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

Why didn’t you just block her number when she first went insane?

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